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Patastrophic
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I'm good with computers, math, and analytics. I'm clever, ambitious and determined.

I feel happiest when I'm analyzing brilliantly-engineered solutions to challenging problems, teaching others to do the things I'm already good at, and just playing some video games to my favorite music.

I feel angry when I can't provide for my family the way I'd like to. I feel like I should be able to hold everything together all alone, and I can't.

Ask me about self-learning books and strategies, wordplay, TV Tropes, awful puns, analytics, or video games. Ask me about anything else, too.
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Rules of Engagement for Digital Communication
Relationship Stress / by Patastrophic
Last post
 December 10th, 2018
...See more Does anyone have experience setting ground rules with family & friends for digital communication and text messaging? This is a scenario that happens all day, every day, and I'm really struggling to deal with it: I'm eating lunch and reading an article right now. I get a message over Steam from a friend wanting to just chat. I want to be a supportive friend, so I'm reading and responding. But I'm trying to get back to this article so I can glean what I want from it between messages. Then I get a text message from my mother. She wants to know what we had for lunch, and talk about the weather. Every time I answer one, the other plays a chime. I stop reading my article and focus on responding and eating my lunch. Every time my phone goes off, I have to put my utensils down and answer the text message. Before I know it, I've been balancing both conversations for 15 minutes and I am physically feeling angry. I've been toying with the idea of telling everyone I don't reply to text messages anymore unless they specifically solicit a response and if they need me for anything else, or it's urgent, to just call me. I don't want to see cold, but this is especially a problem during the week, when I should be working, and I miss deadlines because my mother flips out if I ignore a text message. What are your thoughts? How do you deal with situations like this?
Good News?
Depression Support / by Patastrophic
Last post
 December 6th, 2018
...See more Just wanted to share a thought I had when looking around this subcommunity. I work in a high pressure job, where everything is always fast-paced and it's easy to get caught up in issues. I'm not ready to dive into all the details of the culture, but we get past it by following a general template with our questions in meetings and begin every single meeting at every level of the company with the same two word question: Good News? Sometimes, it sends us off topic, but it always sets a positive mood for what can turn out to be some pretty heated conversation. Today, I can barely keep myself awake after a week with nearly no sleep, but I just saved a big account by the skin of my teeth. What about you? Share your good news with me. It can be about anything -- maybe you've just had one of those really satisfying sneezes, where you feel like your head is completely clear for a few seconds. I want to hear all about it.
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