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PandaK
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PathStep 63 Compassion hearts125 Forum posts245 Forum upvotes229 Current upvotes229 Age GroupAdult Last activeFebruary, 2024 Member sinceAugust 11, 2016
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Looking for Healthy Living Accountability Buddy
Healthy Living / by PandaK
Last post
 January 10th
...See more Hi All! It’s been a long time, but with the start of a new year, I’ve returned to 7cups with health and wellness goals that I’ve been struggling to achieve on my own: * I want to adjust my sleep schedule so that I do get enough sleep at the right times of the day * i want to practice meal planning so that I do eat enough XD * i want to work on dealing with my health issues, which includes finishing up my oral surgery treatment plan, figuring out what’s wrong with my right ear, and getting my right wrist checked out * i want to get myself moving more to improve my fitness * i want to improve my mental health through an online program called the BrainHealth Project if anyone has similar healthy living goals as me, I’d like to connect with you so we can support one another and keep each other accountable :)
Pen Pal Position Open!
General Support / by PandaK
Last post
 October 5th, 2016
...See more I'd be nice if I had someone to be my virtual pen pal/friend who would write to me a few times a week or so about anything. Think of it as having a roommate who you talk to about your day, like whatever what's good or bad. I guess it'd be best if my pen pal and I had some things in common. so some things about myself are I'm into science, I'm a female unemployed part-time grad student, who loves music, crafts, clothes, etc. etc. if you're interested, we could have a kind of "interview" here by telling me a little about what's important to you and what you're into. And if you have any questions for me, leave them here too. If we're a match, let's find some way to keep in touch. Although I'm looking for a friend, I also would like to be someone's friend too. thanks for your consideration!
A really good book on surviving breakups/divorces!
Relationship Stress / by PandaK
Last post
 October 3rd, 2016
...See more Hello, All broken hearts! Not that 7 cups isn't a great place to heal and cope through our breakup or divorce journey, but while swimming through 7 cups, I've been going through this book called The Breakup Bible by Rachel Sussman. It's sort of (but not exactly) a general step-by-step process of dealing with your breakup or divorce with other women's (sorry, guys, but it might work for you too) breakups/divorces. The first 4-5 chapters are good to get started with, which has actually taken me about 2 months because I took a timeout from the usual 8-5 working life and I don't have any serious commitments or responsibilities, like kids, but that doesn't mean it can't be useful for mothers. Anyway, I'm not trying to promote the book for any profit, but it's just something for all who are having a hard time dealing with breakups/divorces. It's a very easy read and not too thick. Just read a chapter and try out the advice in it before going on the next. Or go through a few at a time, whatever feels comfortable. See if your library has it to borrow out or buy it on amazon. For a snippet, check out a sample [https://books.google.com/books?id=3b83PJmb8bcC&lpg=PA83&pg=PA81#v=onepage&q&f=true] of it on Google Books (https://books.google.com/books?id=3b83PJmb8bcC&lpg=PA83&pg=PA81#v=onepage&q&f=true). Although I'm still slowly healing, going by this book and being here on 7 cups is working for me. Best wishes from a fellow broken heart!
Cant move on...
General Support / by PandaK
Last post
 November 25th, 2016
...See more I think I can't get over him because I think he's perfect for me. I keep thinking he'll come back for me some day when there's no sure absolute sign. I'm trying to let go, but I think a part of me doesn't want to because what if he does come back for me? Yet why can't I just let go and move on? Like I have friends who have busy lives, so I have to wait for them to call me to hang out, so I don't know when I'd see them again, but I don't get too anxious about it as I live my life and eventually, I do see them again. but for him, who shows no sign of coming back, I hold on to idea that he will since I like him a lot because some things did happen before that mattered to me. Even though I can't be absolutely sure of the meaning behind those past moments and it's been too long since the last we've crossed paths and there are a lot of signs now that suggest he won't come. Basically, he hasn't ever said to me in person that he loves me for so and so reasons that he will come for me. Yet deep within myself, I can't and don't let him go. I asked my father about him and he didn't tell me to let go. He just said if something's meant for me, then it will come; till then, just make the most out of my life. This is fine to say; he's right, but can't he understand my feelings for this guy? Is this the best he can tell me to live my life normally? I can't stand myself wandering mind back to him that I can't live normally. Would it kill me to not think of him for 24 hrs?
Need help refraining a thought…
General Support / by PandaK
Last post
 October 9th, 2016
...See more So, my problem may not be seriously painful or anywhere close to being an emergency, but it is something that bothers me and I feel like I need help. here's my situation: for a very long time, I have wanted to wear skirts, dresses, and something nice and pretty, like a normal woman would. So I bought some skirts and dresses to wear, but I never can get myself to wear them. I feel like I'm afraid of looking too nice or out of place, or that I'd be showing too much skin, as if I may be trying too hard when I just want to look nice and I like the clothes I bought. It's not like I buy really extravagant or expensive pieces that can only be worn for special occasions, yet these dressy nice casual clothes just end up not worn ever, hanging in my closet or folded up nicely in my drawers. What's the matter with me?
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