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Hello
I'd like to talk about something that doesn't get talked about much.. and which, I believe, is one of the biggest problems in the world today.
Pornography Addiction!
Since the birth of the Internet.. this has been a growing problem.. and the world is becoming more and more sexual.
This is mainly focused on the Christian Community.. but this is for all who have a problem with Pornography.
You may not believe in God.. but read through this anyway.
I can tell you this.. God CAN and WILL deliver you from your struggle, He can and WILL break the chains over your life, and give you an amazing LIFE. I have seen it in many people's lives.. but more importantly... I have seen it in my own life.
Anyway..
There is a growing number of Christians who are struggling with Pornography.
Perhaps you reading this are one of them. Perhaps as you are reading this.. it will be like reading the story of your own life.
I want you to know.. there is hope!! You can overcome!!
Let me share with you a part of my own life.
I am not afraid to tell you about it.
Many people already know about it anyway.. but there are still many that don't... Who I don't actually want to know.. but too bad.
I would like to tell the world about it, in the hope that they, or even you, will find the hope and tools you need to be set free.
So..
I was addicted to Pornography for many years.
It is a sad thing to have to tell you that.. but I am not doing it for myself.
I am doing it for you! I am putting my life on the line to help you overcome something that I overcame.
So lets go back to when I was watching pornography.. no more then a year ago.
I always hated myself after watching pornographic material.. but..
I also loved doing it. Sin wouldn't be such a big temptation if it wasn't enjoyable.
But.. ultimately.. sin will lead to destruction.
I would go to church.. still believe in God.. but I would have another secret life at home.
I loved God.. but I also loved sexual sin. It had become an idol in my life and was taking the place of God.
I would run to it for comfort instead of running to God.
I don't actually know exactly how many years it was. Perhaps 5 years.
I do remember, It really took a hold of me in 2012 and wouldn't let go.
During these years was when I would say I became a porn addict or rather a sex addict.
That doesn't mean I have had sex with many women.. I am actually still a virgin. Praise God.
But I was far from pure. My heart and my soul was tainted.
I invited the devil into my heart through my eyes and he had a field day with me.
I decided enough was enough, and I was going to do whatever it took to break the addiction.
I signed up for the Valiant Man course. It helped me immensely.. I recommend it to everyone.
I was still struggling though.
The problem was.. I hadn't admitted to myself that I was a sex addict. The thought of admitting that, was absurd to me.
I was so self-righteous and proud to admit that I was that far gone. When I finally admitted that to myself... healing started to take place.
I knew the next step I had to do. I needed to tell someone else that I was struggling.
I was fighting it on my own, thinking I was strong enough. That I could beat this thing.
Once again.. I was proud, and very wrong!
Near the end of 2013 I heard a friend of mine speak about his past struggle with Pornography.
I decided that I would tell him I was struggling. I got the courage to tell him. That very point of humbling myself and telling someone that
I had a problem.. and no longer keeping it a secret inside of myself... was like a burden lifting from my shoulders.
And I finally had the strength to beat it.. knowing that someone else was fighting with me.
We prayed together and things started getting better for me.
It wasn't an immediate healing from addiction. Addictions are strong things.
Sex has the same effect as taking cocaine. Because of the release and build up of dopamine in your system.
It really is that serious of an issue.
Being such a huge issue like this.. You need to make HUGE steps to overcoming.
If you are serious.. I suggest even demolishing your computer.
It is so easy to find sexual content on the Internet.
But the Internet is not the problem.. not having the temptation of the Internet would help you though.
The real problem lies inside of yourself.
So here's what I want you to do if you are struggling with this.
1. Admit you have a problem and need help.
Admit to yourself that you are a sex addict. Write it down even.
2. If you can.. do the Valiant Man course. - if you are a man. Although.. girls should do it too in my opinion.
At least watch the free starting video. - http://www.lifekeysonline.org/valiant-man
3. Tell someone about it. In person. Do not fight this alone any more!! Don't keep it a secret any more. Secrets inside of us have power over us, we think we can beat them alone.. but they haunt us and won't leave us alone. Letting it be out there and in the open destroys it's power over you. Get someone to be accountable to.
Even tell a large group of people about it. People you see a lot. Not a stranger. Tell your parents or family member!! If your afraid of what they will think.. Don't be.. Everyone has and have had the same struggles... If you feel you will get in trouble!! GOOD!! lol. Discipline is the best medicine around!! When you tell them...You will feel awkward to begin with... but
you will be surprised the support that is around you... and maybe surprised at others you may help to also admit they have the
same struggle as you.
4. When the urges and temptation comes.. FLEE!
Immediately find something else to do.
The best thing is to get down on your knees and pray. Speak in Tongues if you can. It is powerful.
Another thing to do is.. find something that will keep you really busy and preoccupied. Make no time for it. It's when we are bored and alone that we are most vulnerable.
5. Delete everything on your computer that has sex in it. Movies. Music.
Get rid of anything in your house that has any sexual content in it.
Do whatever it takes!! Make it impossible to look at pornography.. take a baseball bat to your computer if you think you have to!
6. This one is a bit full on.. sorry in advance...
Try and stop yourself from Masturbating so much.. You might be doing it quite often. perhaps even every day..
It's not healthy. Try going a few weeks without it.
Practise self-control. The longer you go without it.. the better you will feel inside of yourself.
But I understand that Pornography is accompanied by masturbating. Practising self-control with masturbation is something to try later on.
Deal with the pornography first. This is unorthodox.. and not a method I would try first... but.. if you feel the urge to watch pornography and you know you are going to, go and masturbate first instead. That sounds bad.. but you are going to do it anyway while watching pornography. It's better to go and masturbate.. then to pollute your heart and soul and mind with bad images. After you masturbate.. you won't feel the need to be sexually aroused by pornography. It's done and it's dusted. But yes.. Masturbation is not good. It's a separate issue to deal with later on.. Right now.. I want you to deal with watching pornography.
7. Think about the people in pornographic pictures, and videos. They are real people that are just as much in need of God's love as we are. I remember starting to look at them, not as an object for my own selfish pleasure.. but as a lost child of God, who needs God's love, just as much as I do. Looking at them the same way God looks at me and looks at them, I could no longer treat them as an object for my pleasure.. but as a person who is lost, broken.. or perhaps even being forced to perform sexual acts. We don't know their stories.. but when I started thinking of them as people WITH a story.. it became impossible to watch them... It started to deeply sadden me that I would use them for my own selfishness. I wish I could save the people in pornographic videos and lead them to a God who loves them.
8. Think about your future spouse. Think about your spouse or partner you have right now. You are hurting your future spouse and you are hurting your current spouse or partner. Your sexuality is meant to be shared with them and only them. Can you continue in what you are doing, knowing that you are hurting them. I couldn't.
9. Remember that everyone sins, and all have been forgiven and given the power to overcome through Jesus Christ.
10. Resist the Devil!! When the urges come.. you tell that lying good for nothing snake to get lost. You have authority over him. Use it!! Put him back in his place.. UNDER YOUR FEET!!
If you want to talk to me about it.. I am here for you.
Please don't hesitate. I will help you fight this!!
I know how much it is hurting you right now...
But I can tell you now.. I am free of it.
And I can help you be free of it as well.
Only by the power of Christ can this be done.
I speak deliverance over you and I break the chains of addiction over your life.
In Jesus Name.
God loves you my friend.
Simon
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1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
Matthew 6:22-23
The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is healthy, your whole body will be full of light, but if your eye is bad, your whole body will be full of darkness.
1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like those who do not know God.
James 4:7
Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
James 5:16
16 Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.
Also read Romans 8
"Break Every Chain"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2uu2RDZdaxc
"I Surrender"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HcnfT4arZtI
"You Are For Me"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UbSMfL5LuSo
"Broken Things"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8rwgKv-6cj8