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Obsessive crush as a married woman
Relationship Stress / by Lillyskb
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 July 3rd, 2024
...See more I have been married 20 years and have developed an obsessive crush. It has happened before over the years but it is always painful and all consuming. I am an artist and share my work on ***. A fellow artist- a young man from France messaged me saying I was attractive and I immediately rejected it telling him I'm married. After a little while tho, I felt flattered and would respond. He is an artist and an architect and I like his art and think he is smart and find him attractive. I have felt very guilty about messaging him, although it's a few times a week and mostly about art. I think I feel more guilty, tho bc he has consumed much of my thoughts throughout the day. This is a pattern for me. I tend to put someone on a pedestal and obsess over them. It pains me and I feel bad because I love my husband very much. I am 42 and attractive and I very much fear getting older so I am aware that this has become a weakness for me. I toggle back and forth between just feeling he is my little art buddy, but then I think I spend too much time thinking of him. I just need help..
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OCD on attachment to people
OCD & Related Behaviors / by Lillyskb
Last post
 June 28th, 2024
...See more This is an idea I am exploring. I have researched it and it seems that OCD can happen with relationships to people or things. I definitely do not have it in the traditional sense, but seem to have a pattern of very strong crushes that are all consuming. I have been married 20 years and in that time have had multiples of these crushes. They are often reciprocated but I have not ever been disloyal. It would be my worst nightmare. I adore my husband. I tend to put someone on a pedestal and obsess over them. It can last months or years. It is rather painful and all consuming for me. I'm not sure if this is even the right platform to get help for this but I thought I would give it a try.
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