"Empathy matters more than anything"

Hi, I'm Ken. I'm here to listen to you express your feelings about important issues in your life. Sometimes we all need to vent to someone that doesn't know us, so we can speak freely and not worry about being judged. Just like you I am a human being. We all make mistakes, bad choices and experience hard times...but those things do not make us a failure, they offer us an opportunity to grow., to learn and be the best person we can be.

To help me become the best listener I can be I would like it if you gave me some feedback. I'd appreciate your honesty, give me the good, the bad and the ugly. I can only get better if I know what you think about our chats, thanks in advance.

"When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us, are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us, and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program for eventual failure every relationship we enter."

Tom Robbins

"You need to stop being so hard on yourself, everyone makes mistakes. You need to forgive yourself. You need to focus on healing. You need to develop healthier ways of coping. You have to make the choice to change. You have to be willing to go all in on yourself. You have to be vulnerable and honest with yourself. You don't have to do it alone, but you do have to do it if you want to be emotionally healthy. You matter. You deserve better. You are your only obstacle. You need to start right now!"

Ken1969



Here are some links you might find helpful:


http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner.html

http://waitbutwhy.com/2014/02/pick-life-partner-part-2.html

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/do-you-want-to-be-with-an-emotionally-available-person-be-emotionally-available-yourself/

http://m.loveisrespect.org/dating-basics/healthy-relationships

http://tinybuddha.com/featured/10-ways-to-have-peaceful-loving-relationships/

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/dont-make-someone-the-sole-source-of-your-happiness-or-your-reason-for-being-you-can-be-happy-without-them/

http://www.gotoquiz.com/are_you_mature_enough_to_have_a_relationship