Hello, I am a 30+ year old female with 3 kids. I started coming on 7cups when my oldest was diagnosed with leukemia, but honestly should have started a lot sooner. Had this been available to me in my childhood maybe I wouldn't be so messed up now. 

I have one older sister, and she is my mother's favorite. Let me give you some examples. 

My mom had went to every one of my sisters cheerleading things at school. But couldn't be bothered with going to any of my sporting events. I was in softball, tack, basketball, but there was always an excuse as to why she could not make it. My sister was taken to a eye doctor early on and got glasses. I had poor grades, I couldn't see the board, I kept explaining but was told it was because I just didn't put the effort in. My teachers all moved me to their desks so I could see the board. Finally I told my dad who drove from 5 states over to take me in. I got my glasses, but at a heavy price. My mother would yell at seeing me without them even if I had just taken them off to wipe my eyes. She would yell saying I caused issues in their relationship and needed to put them back on. My mother removed my sister from school the day of her first ever cycle to explain everything to her. My sister told me about how she got to go out and eat, got new cloths, new shoes. I was told to read the instructions on the insert that came in the box. My sister got pregnant in highschool, my mom took money from my college fund to pay for her large wedding. Everyone was invited she had a beautiful white dress, the bridesmaids, catering. For my wedding, she called everyone on the list and told them it was cancelled. Insisted on later buying me a "wedding dress" from the clearance isle at Sears, and refused to let me ware white, because by this time I had moved out and was no longer "pure".  My sister lived 4 blocks away from my mother now. She is there every day, they have a very unhealthy relationship. One where my mother is asked everything and about everything, while my sister pretends to hang on her every word. They need each other. I'm not sure what will happen to them as they get older. My sister relays on my mother for self worth. My mother relays on my sister for affirmation that she is correct in all things. If they where to separate, they wouldn't know what to do.  Then there's me, who moved away from them as soon as I could. Learned to be self reliant at an early age. 

My mother and sister are both supposed "victims" in this last one. I had planned a trip out to the zoo. I thought it would be fun if we all went tougher. However it was scheduled to rain all day. So I rescheduled it for later that week. Only to be called and told how selfish I was for rescheduling, because my sister was really excited to go. She started name calling (my mother a grown woman) started resorting to name calling like a 5 year old child. Then informed me that no one wanted me there anyway. They only agreed because I had said I was going to pay. I hung up my phone, and since blocked them on all platforms. They where removed from my Facebook, blocked from allowing calls. My sister has tried to call by using her daughter's phone. I texted her daughter later and told her that while I love her I will block her too if she allows that to happen again. 

So now here I am by myself learning how to be normal and behave normally after cutting ties with family I grew up with. I refuse to be a punching bag anymore.