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IoAndromeda
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Why can't I accept "trans"?
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by IoAndromeda
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 May 30th, 2023
...See more Hello! I'm Io, nonbinary femme in need of education and help with acceptance. I have been enby for 7 years but I've only come to terms with it being in the umbrella spectrum of trans since my wife transitioned last year. Before her transition I would have no thoughts about the trans community but after she came out ... it went down hill. I hated that she wasn't my "husband" and that she changed. It was like she died, even though she was standing in front of me. She looked different, sounded different.. even SMELLED different.. and I resented her for killing my spouse. I would see the hate and evil intentions directed at the trans community and get so scared for her, I'd never let her out of my sight. And then it all went to ***.. she started dating (enm) another trans woman and they would exclude me from every topic, every conversation. Everything just became trans. And I was left feeling lost, excluded by my own community, and different. I wasnt the same type of trans as my wife or the people she started surrounding herself with... and it hurt. So of course, I deepdived. I tried different lgbtq apps to make connections. But I got the same results. "T4T only, transfems only, if you are cis - die, & enby isn't trans" I slowly started to hate the trans community. Every time I'd look for videos on the community for help, I'd see more hate. I just recently saw two different lives on *** that said "trans women are better than women" ... I thought this was a community of acceptance and love, but I keep seeing more of an exclusionary hate group. I want to love my community and make connections, but how can I do that if there is hate? I don't want to be an abilest to discrimination. Please educate me on the good side of the trans community and help me find acceptance in myself and the lgbtqia+.
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