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Inventiveday0411
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PathStep 5 Compassion hearts12 Forum posts7 Forum upvotes4 Current upvotes4 Age GroupAdult Last activeOctober, 2023 Member sinceMarch 24, 2020
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Going through so much right now, I’m 40 married a mother and I’m looking for people to talk to and listen to as well. Personally looking for advise from people my age 35-50 but I’ll be here to listen to anyone of course

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Relationship Stress / by Inventiveday0411
Last post
 September 19th, 2023
...See more I’ve been married for almost 4 years…. And it’s been a whirlwind… full of traumatic events caused by me as well as my husband… he is mentally ill has depression and anxiety… and a heck of a temper and control issues… i am told I have bpd but in have my doubts…I lack that anger that explosive rage…. I avoid conflict and honestly have very little as far as a temper goes … But I’m stressed I’ve been working 2 jobs to get my husband through school… he hasn’t worked since we got together…. Things have been hard, have always been hard, but I try hard to keep him happy, keep peace in the house… But I feel like I can never please him… I’m not domestic enough, I don’t clean correctly , I’m “sassy” disorganized and annoying…. I drive him crazy, but I try not to…I’ve looked for help before and was told he’s quite emotionally abusive…. Which honestly shocked me at first… then he told me her knew that as well… over the past 4 years I’ve lost so much… My children want nothing to do with him or me anymore because of how he acts… and because he doesn’t let me out of his sight I haven’t seen them… and so the kids we have together don’t know their older siblings… it breaks me… my friends are no more… new ones I try to make make my husband very upset… My family is pretty gone too as well…. I’m so alone…. The last few weeks he has been trying hard to patch things up… he does this… things get better than worse and better and so on… I never know which way is up… I never feel emotionally safe and there is no way to talk to him about it without him becoming upset and seeing it as an attack on him…. i need help I need people…. Just someone that gets it. I mean I’m 40 I need to get myself together sometime soon…. Thank you for reading
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