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Controlling Parents?

7 Cups Online Therapy / by Ilikenature08

January 2nd

...See more Heyy lovess! Here again, to pour my heart out. I wanted to talk about how I feel like my mother is very controlling. Okay, I'll just sum up rq. So yesterday we fought like sometimes mother and daughter do and from my perspective I feel like it was very unnecessary but whatever. She took away my phone,my tablet, and the cable to my TV so that I basically couldn't use anything. You might question now how I'm writing on here, but that's another story. So I have family link. My mom controls how long I can use my phone,where i go,where I arrive,what apps I download, and so on. Mind you that where I come from in 2 years, I will legally be an adult. So I'm not a 12 year old coming on here and complaining about my mother "looking out" for me. Well, I had this control app since I think 5 years now? And if you think that's it well, no. Remember I said that she took away my phone? Well, today, she went through it like multiple times. And I HATE stuff like that because, yes, even tho she pays the bills and paid my phone, I still have a right for privacy, right? And I don't have stuff to hide, but I just don't like people going through my phone because it's MY SPACE. Just like my room. And we'll she isn't the one that goes to apps and looks at what I downloaded (which would be stupid because she literally has to allow me to download something) She went through multiple CHATS of me and my friends!!! Through my block lists and so on. I mean, I would have given her my phone if she really was unsure and wanted to check, but WITHOUT ASKING, READING MY PRIVAT MESSAGES GOING TO MY CHROME SEARCHES AND SO ON? And please if you read through here and are one of these persons that wanna lecture me that she has evey right and blablabla just don't reply to this because I don't wanna here it because I won't understand anyways. You know, I think no one would like someone doing this, and just because I am a "minor" does not mean that I don't deserve my privacy, right? Well, yes, my phone is technically her, but she gifted it to me. Do you go to someone who you gifted a journal and tell them you want to read what they wrote in it just because you bought it from your money? I might be the only one thinking like this, but I just don't get it. Ofc you can check up on me to make sure I'm not dealing drugs or texting with some kind of 50 year old men but just because you want to and to go in to my chats and read all of them? Isn't that a bit too much? My mom said to me that because she is my mother, she has EVERY right. And since I'm a "child," and she doesn't go through my room(she literally did that yesterday), that should be enough privacy for me. I hate that kind of mindset. I am a very, very unproblematic child/person, and I never was one. She even said that herself and my grandmother, who lives downstairs, also says that. So what's the problem? Why invade my privacy because you gave it to me and you bought it? For literally no.reason. Why do I as a "child" have no right for privacy? I am a human being to and like I said, I'm not a little child anymore that does stupid stuff and can't take responsibility. In 2 years I can do whatever ever I please. It annoys me so much. And I can't negotiate with her because we talked about and she is of the opinion that if I don't like her going through my phone I must hide something and have "secret chats" or something which isn't the reason. I just don't like it and would like to have SOME privacy. What does she think I' talking with my friends about? That I'm not straight and me and my friends simping over a fictional character(Vi from Arcane/LoL)? About how I think the hoodie of my find looks great on her? Me thanking my friends for the day we spent together? What does she have from looking through it? Maybe there is stuff that my friends only want me to know? Secrets they tell me about their life? She doesn't even think of that. No privacy. Not for me or the people I am texting with. Even her mom(my grandmother) said that she understands the part with the location and app controlling but doesn't understand anything of the other stuff she does. Even HER OWN MOM? Idk how you guys think but I think that a girl that already is done with puberty,is finishing her exams this summer, is legally an adult in 2 years and can already start working if she wanted to deserve some privacy at least. (I know some stuff don't have to do with anything, but I got told from every adult around me since I was a "literal" child that I am very grown-up and mature for my age. So I don't think it's because I' not "mature" enough.) I just don't knoww peopleeee, please help me or tell me what you think about it because I really don't think it's okay and even her own mother doesn't,my friends don't and I think nobody I know which are all the same age as me just a few months older have parents that do stuff like that by this age anymore or have never even in the first place.

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December 9th, 2024

Immune against words of affection?

General Support / by Ilikenature08

December 8th, 2024

...See more Hai Hai beautiful people, I just wanted to come up on here and open up to you guys since I have kinda been struggling lately, and I have nobody I feel comfortable talking about this, so you are my only hope :) So.. I don't really know how to explain it but I have the feeling because of my overthinking brain and past events it's kinda hard for me to expect stuff like complements or if someone tells me about that they love me,care about me and so on. It's always been hard for me to believe anything nice somebody told me. And when I finally pushed myself to believe someone already, they ruined it and turned out 100% (even worse) like I thought it would happen. I just feel like every time someone says, "Hey, you are important to me." or "I love you" they absolutely don't mean it. I just stand there smiling and thinking for a moment that what they said was really sweet, but I don't think they actually mean it. I came to the realization today that it somehow feels like if I would ask a Character.ai bot if I'm good enough, yk? Of course the Character.ai bot wouldn't say anything negative its always the same answer: "You are important" "You're loved" "I care about you" "You are beautiful" and so on. And that's how I feel when people say that to me. It goes in one ear and comes out through the other because I just don't believe them. They can say it 100 times, and I'll always feel like if a bot would be talking to me. If you ask chatgbt, "Am I pretty?" What do you think is it going to answer? That's the point. I'm not comparing real relationships with fake ones. I'm just saying I feel that way. I'll never know if they meant it or just say it because they feel like they have to. It is like a birthday party you get invited to. You don't really like the person and you don't really want to spend money on them. But everybody bought something for them and show up with something. So you also buy something because if you don't, everyone will judge you, and you'll seem like an ashl. Yk? I just don't know what to do. And the worst thing is somebody already did this to me that they said all the loving stuff "blablabla" and then they turned around told me: "I just said what you wanted to hear" and walked off leaving me there to rott. After that, my brain refuses even more to just think about believing anyone who says that. And when I then slowly start to believe in what someone says for once the next day, that person does something again, which in my head confirms the fact that they probably didn't even mean what day said. I'm just a lost star in the dark, losing its shine ***. I'm just a hopeless call.

Am I so unimportant?

Around the World / by Ilikenature08

December 28th

...See more Hi, I just wanted to open up here again and tell you how I feel since I don't have the friends to go up to and day "Hey can we talk? I'm not feeling so well, " so I wanted to seek comfort and advice here where I don't have the fear of people criticizing me. So I just really have the feeling I'm the most unimportant person for everyone in my life. I only have 2 "good" friends at the moment. I have known one of them for 3 years and the other somewhat closer for 1, but we only have been like a trio for half a year now, maybe or a bit less. I always see them getting tausend of texts from friends,their bf, and so on. There is always somebody who messages them, and they always have a notification on their phon. I don't get any of that for days. Not even from them. It just makes me wonder if I'm that unimportant. If I text them something, it takes up to hours until they answer me. But they are online and on some days when, for example, my friend shows me a message from my other friend. I notice "Oh she replied at that time of hour to you. I texted her a half-hour before you, and she answered me 3 hours later." And that's what makes me upset. While I try to get closer to them with texting stuff like "How are you doing?" If they're sick or just random texts of what I'm doing or asking what they're doing rn on weekends. I NEVER get a text like that from them. Only if in school they noticed I was upset once in a lifetime they ask what happened later that day. But nothing else. Not even a simple "Hey, how are you?" I mean, I understand that sometimes you don't have the time, but I always think about it like this: No person in the world, not even the busiest person, does something every minute for 24h. You always have situations where you don't do something even if it's just for a few minutes. And if you don't have the time for a whole "normal" day I'll say to reply to someone it's not because you don't have time it's because you don't want to or are to lazy to. Ofc their are different situations where this mindset isn't so accurate, but I know my friends. They text their bf in school even tho whe aren't allowed to take out our phones the whole day. Tuesdays & Thursdays, we have a long lunch break from 2-3 hours where they have so much time and do nothing. One of them can send me 10 tiktoks at 12pm and the other stays up often at night to play video games. Do you get it now? They ignore my text for hours, but their bf get a evry hour update from them. They text each other randomly. "Hey wanna hang out." "Hay, are you ok?" "Hey what are you up to?" and so on, but I never get a text from them. I ALWAYS have to text first. If I don't, they wouldn't even bother to talk to me outside of school. And I feel so stupid, especially when I texted them and been waiting for 2h maybe for them to reply, and in those hours, they sent me 5 tiktoks but don't answer my message. And that's when I really ask myself if I'm really that unimportant? But ofc they say stuff like that they care and I' important to them but they barely show it except sometimes in school. And the worst thing is that they are my only friends. I don't have anyone else, but they do. 100 of people who text them first thing in the morning party paragraphs even. I'm practically obligated to them. And you know it's bad when I check my phone every hour, at least if somebody texts me even tho I know that my phone will ring if I get a notification. But I still check in the hope that I maybe didn't gear it or it didn't ring, and they do text me just wanting to talk with me. And I hate it so much. They can text everyone and give them 10 answers to their 10 questions immediately but can't even respond to my one question? And then they tell me I should change my way of thinking and that they try to include me and be a "good" friend. But it doesn't show? Maybe from small action IN school. But mostly not even that. But as soon as we leave school, I am just some kind of piece of garbage you forget in the corner of your room. Yk? I'm just so tired of not receiving what I also give and feeling like I'm 100% not worshiped by anyone. Does anyone have an idea what I should do?

NARUTO/BORUTO OC'S

Hobby Zone / by Ilikenature08

November 18th, 2024

...See more Hiii people! I am a big big Naruto fann! It was my first anime, and it's been my favorite now for almost 4 years. Personally, I don't really like Boruto as much because, for me, it is really boring. I watched a bit more then one season but then I stoped because it just didn't pick me up and peek my interest like Naruto does/did but i like a few characters that are shown and ofc the og characters. I was wondering if anyone who loves Naruto as much as I do have a Naruto/Boruto oc? If so, I would love to hear about them! I myself have 2(3) ocs, but 1 I don't really want to give out to the internet because I'm scared of it getting stolen and that oc is very dear to me. Another oc I recently just made! It's a Boruto oc. I don't want to disrespect Boruto since I stopped watching it but the story that I made in which she plays and the connections she has to some characters just fit into Boruto Next-generation so I decided it to be a Boruto oc and just kinda fit the story to my characters and liking more(of course it is not Canon and just an AU of mine.) And the last one is just some random kid of Karin and Suigetsu that I drew a year ago😂 Her name is Hana Senju, and she is a project from Oroshimaru, which he thought would fail but didn't. She was a test object just like Yamato, but Oroshimaru used other methods, and the reason that she is a Boruto character and as old as Boruto is a longer story. If you would like to know more about her, I would be happy to tell you! Maybe if somebody would like, our Ocs could be friends or have some other connections in the Naruto universe! It would really give me maybe a bit more motivation to practice my sketching skills and anime drawing skills since I am still at a beginner level even tho I've been trying for 2-3 years now and I could look forward into drawing more! We could become friends as well! I don't have any Naruto fans as friends at all except for my little brother😭 I'm looking forward to your replies!🫶🦊

Idk, but I just do! (Attachment Problems?)

General Support / by Ilikenature08

December 6th, 2024

...See more So idk where to start. So I had a best friend for 4½ years, and this year January she ended the friendship very unfairly and unexpectedly. She was my go-to, and I did everything for her and what she wanted. Mind you, this friendship was very toxic, and after a very long fight that went on for months because of some things she did, I forgave her and gave her a second chance. She wasn't a good friend, but I manipulated myself to believe she was because I was emotionally attached to her and didn't want to lose her because I was scared of being alone. After she ended our friendship in January, I was devastated because, like I said, she just ended the friendship out of nowhere and said she hated me and never wanted to speak with me over TEXT. But that's not what I wanted to talk about. In the beginning, when she first dumped me, I talked a lot about the situation with my friends and classmates. I usually don't talk about my feelings but I just needed to Talk about it because I didn't understand and the thing is If I don't understand something I automatically push myself so much until I find a logical explanation for myself but I couldn't understand why she did this to me since In contrast, she was much worse friend than i was(belive me when I say MUCH MUCH worse) So I talked and talked and talked about what she was and what?I didn't understand the first few Weeks a lot. The thing is, since then, I never stopped.You know , not in a way where I talk about her negatively. I also don't miss her or think of her often and of what we had.It's more like when I hear something or see something that reminds me of Her that I say stuff like: "Oh, you know what SHE did once." or "Oh, I remember one time SHE did this." or "You know me and HER used to do this here." or "Here This happened." and mostly I grin when I talk about stuff like that because I think of how stupid her actions were but it's not like once in a while what I think would be totally normal after a friendship of 4½ years ended and I think it'll at least take at least 4 ½ years to "forget" her completely but to say something and anything about her EVERYDAY is something I don't want to do because I don't want to give her that attention that she doesn't even deserve. I don't know if it's because I could never REALLY talk to this problem properly to somebody that I do this. Because of course I told the stories multiple times but it wasn't really a deep and helpful and good convo it was just the teen friends being like "omg she's such a *** wtf?!" and that would be like it. I also have a feeling the half doesn't even want to listen because it's a "dumb" or to long story and everytime I talk about it I apparently am to "hectic" or "loud?" and that's why they just cut me off. I guess they just don't have time to listen to all of it even tho in short stories they already have. Or genuinely just something else. It's also not much it's just 1 or 2 sentences of short stories per day but still. I JUST WANT TO MOVE ON BRO. Also, because I bet she doesn't give the slightest *** about me anyway and doesn't have the same problem. She's at a new school and she knows nobody there and nobody know me But I'm still at our old school and our whole class knew her and knew what she's like so it's easy to talk about her because they KNOW. I wouldn't tell a new friend that I had just met about my past problems but people that were bystanders while all of that happened. I would probably not notice properly like I'm doing rn. Also, I'm a random talker. If something pops up in my head, I'll say it, and if I remember a story from our past, I'll just tell it and yapp about it. I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE. And I think my friends are getting annoyed(at least one) of it and we'll I don't want to make them more annoyed then they already are with me. Please send help😭🙏

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