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IcyMist
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PathStep 2 Compassion hearts31 Forum posts34 Forum upvotes51 Current upvotes51 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2021 Member sinceNovember 14, 2020
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Relationship anxiety
Anxiety Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 April 9th, 2021
...See more Just hoping to get some advise on dealing with paranoia/insecurity/anxiety in a relationship. I have felt insecure most of my life but it is crippling my life now. It really strained my last relationship and I don't know how I am going to get on and be happy again. Basically when I was with them I was constantly insecure. Every single day I would imagine scenarios over and over where they were cheating on me. It caused me so much pain and made me feel depressed. After the lockdown it got worse. I was crippled by fear, maybe separation anxiety too. I Feared the moment I left they'd invite someone over and do the deed. I was constantly checking their phone/computer for evidence. It was toxic. I hated myself for it but I didn't know how to deal with it. They had left someone else to be with me but a few things happened which I'd rather not say which did cause problems between us. The thing is, they still want us to be together in the future and I just don't know what to do. I don't want to have those feelings running rampant in my mind and controlling my life. I need to deal with this issue first. I need to know what I can do to control it. I am very defensive and always have a wall up because of fearing rejection. A part of me thinks well they were with me all this time and nothing happened so why not trust them? But then my cynical side says 'what and then them cheat later on down the line.' They had tried hard to reassure me a few times but it was no use. I just wish I didn't care so much and thought 'just live life and enjoy the time you have with them.' But it seems impossible. Any advise would be appreciated. Thanks.
Tips on being happy
Depression Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 April 29th, 2021
...See more What do you do when nothing makes you happy? Or you just can't think of anything to cheer yourself up? I feel like I haven't felt real genuine happiness for such a long time. Appreciate any advise.
Moving on
Relationship Stress / by IcyMist
Last post
 March 30th, 2021
...See more Anyone give me some advice I'd appreciate it as I don't know what to do. I was in a serious relationship with someone which ended few months back. For me to be able to deal with things and move on I have distanced myself from them but they are still trying to keep in contact with me. They don't realise how much it is hurting me but I seem incapable of ignoring them when they pressure me to talk. I am trying not to get hurt but always give in and it seems as if I will not be able to shut them out even when they have moved on and I have to find out and be in even more pain.
Happiness
Depression Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 December 17th, 2020
...See more I actually think I have forgotten what it feels like to feel genuine happiness
How to love yourself
Depression Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 January 17th, 2021
...See more The only way I have ever felt worth and value is from how other people treat me. I am told to love myself but how do you do this when you feel depressed when on your own? I genuinely do not know.
Great advise
Anxiety Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 December 15th, 2020
...See more I wanted to share this on here as I read it and found it has helped me realise a problem I have been dealing with for years. It is actually quite a relief to put a name to it. [http://blogs.smartsavvy.com/worry-is-not-a-plan]
Anyone else feel this way?
Depression Support / by IcyMist
Last post
 December 12th, 2020
...See more In every relationship I have in the end no matter what I end up thinking well it's going to end at some point. Then I think well if it's going to end what's the point in trying? So then I give up and often do everything to jeapordise it. Does anyone else feel this way?
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