I am a male in my early forties equipped to discuss a variety of issues that can make life challenging. My approach to listening is active and collaborative. 

In order to be respectful of each other’s time and improve the likelihood that I will be a good match for you, please consider the following:

As a listener here, the rules of the site prevent me from giving advice. My objective is for you to feel heard, to help you sort out your own thoughts, and to offer whatever perspective I can. Please do not ask me for advice or get upset when I decline to give it.

If you do request a chat, please be both available and prepared for a real-time conversation to discuss what is bothering you. Please also let me know when you need to leave rather than just disappear. Excessive gaps in the conversation or randomly vanishing for the day will make it less likely I will reply to you in the future.  

I prefer that my limited time here is spent being as helpful as possible. If you are mostly interested in a casual chat, you will probably be better off with a different listener. I do not consider it my role as the listener to provide the discussion topic or entertain you when you’re bored.

I am available to chat when my status shows as Online (green dot). If you wish to message me at other times, and we are new to each other, please introduce yourself and give me an idea of how you want me to help. Offline messages that consist of just hello/hi are less likely to receive a response. Please do not randomly message me asking if I’m around when my status is showing as offline.

Thank you for taking this into consideration. If this sounds workable for you, feel free to reach out. I look forward to hearing from you.