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Gymqueen09
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PathStep 60 Compassion hearts130 Forum posts10 Forum upvotes19 Current upvotes19 Age GroupAdult Last activeFebruary, 2020 Member sinceDecember 9, 2019
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Breaking Up on Good Terms
Relationship Stress / by Gymqueen09
Last post
 January 28th, 2020
...See more So my boyfriend and I of almost 2 years have just decided that it may be in our best interest to break up. The last few months haven't been rough per se, but they also haven't been leaving us with a happy feeling like it used to. Throughout our relationship, personal growth has been a big thing that we have strived for and together we were able to make such huge accomplishments in this regard. However, it seems in finding ourselves, our interests and desires in life started to differ. He wants to chase a productive life of continuous improvement whereas I want to chase a life full of happiness. For example, he started to see watching movies together as unproductive time (cause he was not improving himself in some way) whereas I saw it as bonding time. Although I know it is probably for the best, it doesn't stop it from hurting as much as it does. It seems crazy to say goodbye to a person you still love that much and who still loves you back. It makes me think I'm making a mistake. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to handle the aftermath. Just something along the lines of what we could do in terms of maintaining a relationship still or not and how to handle the feelings that come with all this. Thanks,
Social Anxiety at Small Party
Anxiety Support / by Gymqueen09
Last post
 December 14th, 2019
...See more So I went to this small get together with friends of my boyfriend. We hung out at first and I didn't say too much as I wasn't sure where I fit into this already established group dynamic but it wasn't bad. We then switched over to one of their houses for a small party and that's where it got worse for me. All the guys were talking and all the girls were dancing and having fun and even though I like to dance, I didn't. I just held onto the counter for support as I felt my chest get tighter and my heart beat faster. I didn't know what to do with my hands and I just kept thinking about how lame they must think I am. My boyfriend was really supportive in trying to get me to relax and not leaving me alone the whole time but after a certain point I couldn't take it. Nothing I seemed to do calmed me down until I had an anxiety attack. One of the girls brought me to a space where I could take a break with my boyfriend but the embarrassement of not being able to handle the party only made my attack worse. I ended up hiding up in that room until the end of the party because I didn't think I could face anyone after what had happened. Anyone have an similar situations to this or tips on how to overcome this? Everything is appreciated <3
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