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FindingPeace2015
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Breakup Complications
Relationship Stress / by FindingPeace2015
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October 30th, 2023
...See more My ex chose to leave (again) and when he did, he let me know how little he thought of me. Now he wants to discuss getting back together, saying he still loves me and wants to be a family. Neither of us are bad people - but we are not good together and I definitely don't see a future together. I was finally picking myself back up and now this...will I ever be able to move on??
Divorce is hard. The understatement of the year.
Relationship Stress / by FindingPeace2015
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February 22nd, 2017
...See more My husband has been telling me he hasn't been happy for a long time. He brought up divorce on my birthday about 5 months ago and said he had been "faking" being happy for more than 2 years. We haven't been friends in a long time. This past Valentine's Day he told me he had talked to a lawyer about getting divorced. After all these months, I felt relieved. Relief that I finally knew what was going on instead of worrying every day if that was the day I would recieve the papers. We talked about trying to stay together, but even after all of this, he still "doesn't know". He doesn't want to lose me because he doesn't want to be alone. He doesn't want to not see our son everyday even though during the past few months he has barely been around because he has been "trying to figure things out" and his way of doing that is staying out all night at bars, or just "driving" for 6 to 10 hours at a time. Now I feel like he is making me make the decision so he doesn't look like the bad guy. I'm ready to make it. No one deserves to be treated this way, and I don't want my son thinking that this is the right way to treat someone you are supposed to love. It's bigger than just me now, and it is such a hard decision because I believe that a child needs both parents. I have been struggling to find the line between needing both parents and having both parents but being taught bad values. I'm so scared. I've never been truly on my own before, but I deeply feel like this is the best decision. I hope someone out there understands. This is the hardest decision I have ever had to make, but after thinking about it for so long, I know that it is either now or never, and if I do not do it, I will lose the best parts of myself.
Needing support and encouragement
Relationship Stress / by FindingPeace2015
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November 17th, 2014
...See more I am filing for divorce today. I lost my gumption for a long time but I finally got it back and realized that I don't deserve to be walked on. Yesterday I walked in on my husband's girlfriend naked in my bed. He told me he didn't love or care about me and he couldn't bring himself to care when he hurts me. I still love him...but it's time to save myself. So today when I walk into the court house to get the divorce papers and restraining order, I might need the extra push. I know I need to do this, but it's not easy. 
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