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I am tired of being alone!!!!!
Anxiety Support / by EmotionallyRational
Last post
 January 8th, 2021
...See more I am 27 years old and still a virgin, never had a girlfriend, never held a girl's hand in mine, never had my first kiss. I am pretty much by society's standards a loser. I ask myself why me? Why am I being punished for being ugly? It sucks being this way, I guess being lonely and miserable is part of being ugly and unwanted by women.
Being a racial minority with social anxiety
Anxiety Support / by EmotionallyRational
Last post
 February 5th, 2021
...See more I am Indian and I grew up in Africa, I moved to the us when I was 16 due to family circumstances. I struggle to fit in here in America, I can get along with people fine but no one in this country likes what I like. I can never have a conversation about Cricket or Football(soccer) in particular English Football since I am a Manchester United fan plus no one in this country seems to like the music I like which is Electronic Dance Music. Sure it's potrayed as popular amongst "young hip millenials" however whenever the topic of music comes about in a conversation, the people involved in said conversations tend to be rock music, or metal or rap music fans who now everything there is to know about those genres. But does anyone in America know who Deadmau5 is? nope, or Armin Van Buuren? nope or Martin Garrix? Nope. Manchester United is one of the biggest Football(soccer) teams in the world and unless you are an immigrant from a soccer playing nation no one in this country knows who they are but they certainly know who the NY Giants are or the Green Bay Packers. So for these reasons I have social anxiety and struggle to find a common ground with people or find anything in common.
Im tired of being alone
Relationship Stress / by EmotionallyRational
Last post
 December 21st, 2020
...See more I am 27 years old and still a virgin, I never had my first kiss, never held another girls hand, never felt the love and affection of another human being. In high school and middle school girls didn't like me because I was that guy that all the girls thought I was "disgusting" and the mention of my name was met with "ewww" remarks. I was and never have been "that cute guy" that women gossip about, no one other than my mother has said I am handsome, I don't feel handsome because I don't look like what women find attractive (this statement is not sexist in any way shape or form). When women find a guy attractive she flirts with him and has long conversations with him but I never get treated like that (I am not saying I am entitled), I never get any kind of positive attention from women, sure I can talk to women but it never leads to anything past being "just friends" in my experience. I feel as though I am not being given a chance and I am being judged based on my appearance, looks and race. Yes I am Indian a race hated by most if not all women due to negative stereotypes and a negative perception based on "bad experience", for example a very common complaint is that Indian men go on social media apps like facebook and send random women innapropriate messages. A rational human being would say in response to this that some people behave badly online whilst an irrational person would say "omagerd whats up with all these Indian guys sending me creepy messages". Such behavior is wrong and unacceptable however it is also unacceptable to blame an entire race for the actions of a few it doesn't solve anything nor will it stop those men from behaving badly towards women online and such behaviour is not exclusive to "Indian" men, men or people of all races can be guilty of harassing people online. Therefore it is a people problem not a race problem.
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