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EmeraldForest2006
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Looking for a friend who would like to have deep talks! 💖
PathStep 23 Compassion hearts283 Forum posts42 Forum upvotes78 Current upvotes78 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2024 Member sinceOctober 12, 2022
Bio

Hi! My name is Emerald or Emilia (you can pick which name you call me)! I'm 17 years old, my pronouns are she/her, I'm Chinese-American, and I'm currently questioning my sexuality. I came to 7 Cups seeking ways to better my mental health and connect with a vast, diverse community of people. I really enjoy making people feel loved and connecting with others! I struggle with anxiety, stress, burnout, and low self-esteem sometimes, but I'm generally a very happy, positive, and fun person to be around!

Some interesting facts about me: I'm a Libra and was born in the Year of the Dog. My personality type is INFJ, and I prefer deep, meaningful conversations over small talk. I speak both Mandarin Chinese and English. I'm a huge Swiftie and my favorite Taylor Swift album is Midnights (my favorite song from that album would have to be Snow on the Beach, probably)! I love books, movies, and music, and am always looking for YA fantasy and sci-fi recommendations. I'm super into Lord of the Rings and His Dark Materials, so if any of you guys are interested in those I would love to chat with you about them. If I had a dæmon (basically a spirit animal), it would probably be a harpy eagle. My favorite flower is a blue hydrangea. Nature and beautiful scenery always make me feel so happy and grateful to live on this planet, and are very effective in helping me calm down when I'm overwhelmed. Watching standup comedy videos and getting a good laugh from them are also great, relaxing, leisurely activities for me. My absolute favorite book is These Violent Delights, and Chloe Gong is my QUEEN. 😌✨

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Recent forum posts
Is it me?
Relationship Stress / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
February 27th
...See more My best friend who I've known and loved since first grade has recently started acting distant and cold towards me. We've been close for over a decade at this point, and she's always been a lot quieter and less emotional than me. But as of late, it seems like she doesn't want to talk to me at all. She's not being mean to me, but whenever I say literally anything, she just gives the vibe she wants to be left alone. When I tell her things she used to find funny, she just looks at me blankly, as if I just said the most childish thing in the world. She's so much smarter and more talented than I am, so I'm wondering if it's because she feels like I'm not on her level anymore, or if I'm just not fun to talk to now that we're older. Sometimes, she straight-up doesn't answer when I say something, even when she clearly heard me. Over text, she's super friendly and enthusiastic, but in person, she's aloof and always seeming tired. I don't know if it's something going on in her life or if it's me. I totally understand that when people have things going on in their lives, they can act coldly to those around them. I just want to know what I'm doing wrong. I want my best friend back. I can't afford to lose her.
How to start a friendship?
Relationship Stress / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
May 8th, 2023
...See more Hey everyone! I hope you all are having a good day! So there's this kid in my English class and school band who is a really awesome person. They are talented in so many ways, funny, sociable, smart, and just really cool. They are very friendly to people in their circles, and I always see them making others laugh. A while back, one of my best friends left me because of some really complicated stuff that went down that I won't get into right now, and I really want to become friends with this kid in my class. I see them all the time in band and stuff, but I'm too scared to talk to them because I feel like they're too cool for me. I'm just the basic nerd girl who gets good grades in school, but they not only do well in school, but have an interesting, gravitating personality, too. In the past 2 days, I've tried texting them a few times, and it's been going sort of well, but I still have a lot of anxiety around them and don't know how to develop this into a friendship. I tried finding common interests with them, but can't seem to find many.
Change Username
Site Updates / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
April 7th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone! I hope you're all having a good day! I was told that if I wanted a username change, I should email community@7cups.com [/community@7cups.com], but it's been a month and still haven't received any word. If I want to have my user changed, what should I do? Thank you so much!
I feel like I am a disgrace to women for perpetuating sexist stereotypes
Women's Issues / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
February 7th, 2023
...See more (I'm so sorry for how lengthy this is, but I really need to talk to someone about this. Thank you so much for reading it to the end. It means a lot :')...) I am a teenage girl, just years away from graduating high school. I'll be the first person in my very-low-income family that will go to college. Soon, I'll have to worry about secondary education applications, a rigorous education path in medicine, and the financial, emotional, and academic stresses of being an adult in the world. I should be focused entirely on my grades, test scores, and hanging out with friends once in a while so that I can ensure a happy, healthy, and successful future for myself. But instead, I am here, falling head-over-heels in love with a boy in my class. There are stereotypes everywhere regarding women's roles in society. I've heard every single disgusting, misogynistic one, and I'm sick of it. I'm sick of hearing that women "need men" in order to get through life and have purpose. I'm sick of being told that women must have a husband and kids in order to be happy. I'm sick of seeing that women "just don't have what it takes" to succeed in STEM. And so, a few months ago, I made a decision: I was going to prove all of these stereotypes wrong. I was going to prove sexist people wrong. I was going to stay focused on academics, get into a good university, grow up, get a job, get a house, and a live an awesome life all without a man. I told myself that in order to smash all of the harmful stereotypes our world throws at us, I will just have to show them that they're all wrong by being the exact opposite. I was going to be a strong, independent woman. But then, I met a boy. The sweetest, kindhearted, most understanding, most validating, and loving boy ever. In school, most of the male students I've met were rude, ignorant, racist, sexist, homophobic bullies, and this kid was everything that I thought boys couldn't be. He's held me through some of the toughest times in my life, listened to me through the worst of my depression, and has so many inside jokes with me I can't even count them all. I am well aware of some of his flaws, such as the fact that he has an unrealistically poor view of himself and oftentimes gets stuck in an "I can't do it because I'm not good enough" mindset, but we have a mutually respecting relationship that we use to help and build each other up. Long story short, I fell in love with him, with his impossibly beautiful soul, genuine love of being kind, and adorable, uplifting smile. And it makes me hate myself. There is nothing wrong with being in love with someone, and we can't help who we love. Love is valid and it is real. I know that. If you are a woman in love with a man, it makes you no less of a woman. But knowing these things doesn't stop me from feeling like a disgrace to my gender. I should be smashing heteronormative stereotypes and toxic romance tropes. I should be focusing on school. I should be a strong, independent woman who keeps the male people in her life at a platonic handshake's reach and stays concentrated on making a life for herself. Being an Asian girl that falls in love with a white boy does nothing but bring humiliation to me and perpetuate racist and sexist societal stereotypes. I can't prove toxic people right. I feel like I have to be asexual, lesbian, or anything other than straight so that I can different from the norm and not love men, or else sexist people will see me as yet another argument they can use for their misogynistic hate. I'm sorry if this came off an attack as straight women - I have nothing against you, respect you with all of my heart, and am so happy you have found relationships that make you happy. These are just my thoughts and views on myself, and it's very difficult to explain why I feel such extremist feelings towards my being a Chinese female, but I can't bear the thought that by loving this boy, I am causing harm to others of my people by perpetuating these awful stereotypes that have plagued our communities for years. I can't love men. I can't be straight. Or else I'm not independent from men, and thus proving sexist people right. And I can't bring any more disgrace to women than what we've already faced.
There's nothing wrong, and that's what's wrong
General Support / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
November 29th, 2022
...See more Hey everyone! I hope you're all having a good day and know that you're valid, appreciated, and awesome just the way you are. I have something that's been bugging me for a bit, and I really don't know where to say it, so I'll just put it here. So basically, I feel like there's something seriously wrong because of how not-messed-up my life is. Like, it should be more messed up than it is. I live in a peaceful, safe neighborhood in a nice house with loving parents, and I go to a beautiful, clean school and get good grades and hang out with my awesome, kind friends. I have everything I could ever need and want to live a happy life. My life is basically perfect, and I'm very grateful. But there are SO MANY people out there who are suffering with the worst problems you could ever possibly imagine, and I'm here in all of my glory and health and privilege and not suffering in the slightest. Shouldn't I be suffering, too? So many people have it worse than me. I have no reason to feel anything other than happy and grateful and content, and my "problems" literally don't matter because I'm a meaningless kid with no struggles in life whatsoever even though half of the planet is going through the worst stuff imaginable. I have it good...way too good. There's nothing wrong with my life, but there should be. And that's what's wrong.
Unable to post threads
Site Updates / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
November 29th, 2022
...See more Hello everyone! I have a question. Whenever I try to post a forum thread, it just says "Code 064" and doesn't let me do anything else. Is this a me problem or a problem with the sire? I'm not even sure if this one will go through, but I hope it will!
How 7 Cups Not Only Lifted Me Up, But Let Me Fly
Newbie Hub / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
November 25th, 2022
...See more My story as a thriving, happy 7 Cups listener with a strong sense of purpose began as that of a lost, lonely member—as a slow journey upward after the biggest hit to my mental health I ever took—COVID. From the start of the coronavirus pandemic to the end of my freshman year of high school two years later, depression and anxiety followed me like twin shadows—not always easily noticeable, but hidden behind every move I made. I did my best to smile for my friends and keep a straight face for my family, but the hopeless thoughts secretly worsened every day and underlied everything in my life subtly but surely, like the backbeats of a lonely, melancholy song. Sometimes entrenching myself in the bottomless, stressful pit of my responsibilities and schoolwork would help numb the pain by forcing me to focus on something else, but as soon as the work was done, so was the evading. The feelings would come crashing back like a tsunami, and no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t fight them off. I suffered in silence and cried under the cover of night for what felt like the longest and most unbearable eternity of my life, only opening the great, heavy door to my secret room of darkness and vulnerability to show some of my closest friends. But all of them had their own stresses and lives to live. They couldn’t be there for me forever. At the end of the day, it was me that was going to have to take initiative for my own mental health. I scoured the whole internet for something that could be of help—something that would be free due to my family’s financial situation, easily accessible, and genuinely helpful. But the vision eventually seemed too good to be true, as I discovered site after site of either crazily high prices or absentee helpers. I was about to give up and curse my naïvity for believing that finding help would be this easy and turn out with such a good result. I didn’t even want a “therapist”, per se, just someone who was willing to listen to me who I wouldn’t feel bad or scared talking to. My skepticism of online help and fear of getting myself into trouble on the internet only heightened my anxiety even more. Then, I found this website that introduced 7 Cups as a “free of cost mental health site that offers prompt emotional support” and I was amazed. To begin with, I believed it to be a scam or too good to be true, but I decided to give it a try anyway and just see what it was about. I googled 7 Cups of Tea—in the “Private” browser of my Safari because deep down, I was still insecure about needing help back then—created a member account, and sent a general chat request. I sat there for several minutes, waiting for someone to pick up my chat with guilt fastly filling my heart. 5 minutes in, I began feeling like I was just going to end up just wasting the time of whoever my listener was going to be and draining them by venting about my problems. I was just about to call off my chat request, when it got accepted by my first listener. I suddenly felt stuck and questions began swarming in my head, buzzing frantically like bees. What should I even say? How do I talk about my life to a stranger I’ve never met before? What if I ruin their day by talking about negative stuff? But as soon as my listener gave me a warm welcome and told me that they were there for me, it was like a switch flipped inside of my mind. It finally registered to me that there were people out there in the world who wanted to help me—who didn’t know me, but knew what I was going through. And somehow, that feeling was just as good as confiding in a best friend. It felt just as valid, and just as beautiful. All it took was this one conversation with this single listener that convinced me that 7 Cups truly was a genuine, positive place, and that the community was full of supportive people. And as someone who always loved helping people and making sacrifices for others, I decided to join 7 Cups of Tea as a listener, less than a few weeks after my first chat with my first listener. In the beginning, navigating the community was sort of confusing and frustrating, but before long, I fell in love with the connectivity and togetherness I felt with all of the members I talked to, the fun in posting in forums about all of my personal interests and well wishes for others, and how easy the community made it to be vulnerable and understood. It took me only a few days of clicking around to witness all the kindness and compassion being passed around the world to people of all different races, religions, sexualities, genders, and situations, capable with the power of technology. Thank you 7 Cups for all that you do. You are such a positive force in the world and I thank you for existing and serving so many people.
It's so nice to meet all of you!
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by EmeraldForest2006
Last post
November 12th, 2022
...See more Hello everyone! I'm new here! My name is Blue or Sky (you guys can pick which one you call me). My pronouns are she/her and I'm not really sure about my sexuality. I think I'm demisexual, but I'm super confused about my romantic identity. All in all, I don't really care about labels, though. You guys can call me ace/asexual, queer, or other things like that. But anyway, it's so nice to be here amongst all of you awesome people. I've recently been struggling a lot in my life but this seems like such a positive and welcoming space, so I hope I find a home here. Thanks for reading my post, and remember you are all valid and loved! Have a wonderful day! <3
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