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Manipulated and betrayed by men. Now I dont have trust any longer.
Trauma Support / by Dellanguyen
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 December 14th
...See more 2 years have passed, but I'm still sitting here, tears streaming down my face whenever I think about what happened. I feel completely broken and lost. It all started in October 2021 with Antonio, that fool from Puerto Rico. We were in a long-distance relationship and, after months of talking, we decided to meet in April 2022. I had no idea that this would turn into the worst experience of my life. As the date to meet approached, we fought more and more. He became insecure but didn’t tell me, and when he finally arrived in Vietnam, he had second thoughts. The nightmare began. He didn’t tell me about his insecurities and lied about flying to my province. I waited THREE HOURS at the airport, excited to meet him... but he never showed up. When I finally messaged him, he confessed that he wasn’t ready. I cried. I cried more than I thought was humanly possible. My heart felt like it was breaking, and I didn’t even know how to stop. I couldn’t walk, so strangers had to put me in a wheelchair and take me to a waiting room. I was completely shattered. But the story didn’t end there... A few days later, he decided to come after all, but once again, he lied. Instead of coming to meet me, he flew to Japan and told me he had been deported and robbed of all his money. I panicked, flew 1000 km to meet him... only to find out it was another lie. Two lies in one week. I couldn’t take it anymore. He told me he wasn’t ready, that all the fights had left him mentally disturbed, and that he was afraid our relationship would turn bitter. I wanted to fix things. I loved him. I forgave him. So I gave him another chance. The cycle repeated. In September, he returned to Vietnam. Again, I waited for him. And again, he lied. He missed his flight and rescheduled. When he finally made it to Vietnam, he said he wasn’t ready to meet me. He made up an excuse about food poisoning, and when I offered help, he snapped: “You can’t help yourself, how can you help me?” He stayed for a month before flying back to the US, leaving me feeling like I was nothing. Sometimes, I still cry, and sometimes, I feel so ashamed. I can’t believe I let someone hurt me like this. I still blame myself for being so blind, for loving him so deeply that I lost all self-respect in the process.
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