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Choinkowy
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PathStep 11 Compassion hearts22 Forum posts3 Forum upvotes3 Current upvotes3 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2023 Member sinceJanuary 10, 2023
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Strong fear, panic, anxiety attacks
Anxiety Support / by Choinkowy
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 January 17th, 2023
...See more Hi all, Im 32, male, in a relationship. Ive been to therapy, im connected to my feelings now. I understand a lot of things and put a new perspective in front of me I recently (4months) met who I hope is my future wife. She is the best thing that happening to me recently. On most levels we are incredibly close, and not afraid to discuss true feelings. She also been to therapy, and i feel things are genuinly good. What bothers me is that she has her anxiety / strong fear attacks. She can explain that She is having one and needs space. I respect that. The way she deals with them is she lays down in bed, turn on a hairdryer and lets herself ooze in a humming sound and warm. It can take hours sometimes, and usually when im not around. But i cannot help The feeling i could help her somehow else. Whenever i try to talk about those attacks she explains them briefly and mentions this is how she deals with them. She also mentioned she sometimes 'keeps it inside' until im not around, and than proceeds with her way. I care about her a lot, and want to maybe not change how she is dealing with it, but offer other solutions. O give her more tools, offer support. Like: Hold her hand, talk to her, look her in the eye. Be with her. But whenever i mentioned that perhaps there are other ways, we could be trying, and offer her to somewhat Lean on me more, she refuses to even consider the idea. Like there is only one way.
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