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CaffeinatedKat
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PathStep 4 Compassion hearts11 Forum posts17 Forum upvotes13 Current upvotes13 Age GroupAdult Last activeMay, 2021 Member sinceAugust 15, 2018
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I’m so Obsessive Over what he Thinks
Anxiety Support / by CaffeinatedKat
Last post
 April 26th, 2021
...See more I’ve been in love with my male best friend for a while now. We dated for about a year in 2019. Then things ended and he got another girlfriend. We were still best friends and still very close. But I never got over him and I’m still not. I obsess over what he thinks of me. He knows I still have feelings for him, but I’m sure he’s over me as far as romance. I get mixed signals. He’s bipolar so his mood changes pretty constantly. And I always take it as though I myself have done something wrong. Currently, he’ll reassure me that he’s not dating a girl that he mentions off-hand. He’s not at all over his most recent ex. They had a fantastic relationship. We all got along. He was super happy, etc. and I was happy for him! He’s on dating sites but has yet to find anyone that he’s actually interested in. I don’t know. I don’t even know how to explain it. I’m sorry if this was so jumbled. He knows my feelings for him. He knows that I still love him. And I just keep getting mixed signals. He’s not doing it intentionally. I just think he may be going though the ups and downs of a break up and doesn’t really know where he’s at really. What do you guys think? And please, above ANYTHING, what can I do to stop obsessing over him??? I don’t blow his phone up. I give him plenty of space. I wait for him to come to me when he wants to talk.
I miss her
Relationship Stress / by CaffeinatedKat
Last post
 July 1st, 2020
...See more I always had suspicions that I was bisexual, but I finally met a girl that convinced me completely. She was perfect in the beginning. She herself is completely lesbian. She's 5 years older than me. She has a lot of health issues including MS. She was the perfect partner: sweet, attentive, offered great advice. The only thing I had to complain about is her constantly changing feelings. This is just to give a little background. I cut her off some time ago because she constantly sent mixed signals. One day she was completely into me, the next she wasn't. We settled as being friends in the long run, but that didn't even suit her. She got a girlfriend. I told her I wanted to still be friends she agreed. Everything was fine. We became best friends. She started staying with her girlfriend. She sent me a message saying that she can't handle being friends if I'm always going to have romantic feelings for her which is something I NEVER brought up. It was like our whole conversation about remaining friends no longer existed. I cut her off. Unfriended her on all social media. Haven't talked to her since. But I miss her. I know she was probably toxic all along there's a lot that I don't feel like typing out. But I miss her.....and I don't know how to stop thinking about her.
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