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Bunnie's Honour's Project: Dealing with PTSD due to Emotionally Abusive Relationships
Trauma Support / by BunnieLuv
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 March 8th, 2019
...See more This Honors Project is made by BunnieLuv and is designed to raise awareness about abusive relationships and how it can affect individuals and how to possibly deal with this mental issue. This post might bring TRIGGERS, and if you feel uncomfortable about this topic, I suggest you to refrain from reading this, and browse a listener on your member account. What is PTSD? PTSD, or Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, is a form of disorder that is caused by stressful situations, or dangerous events. We normally experience fear after distressing situations, but people who might have recurring problems and symptoms have a possibility that they are struggling with PTSD. Different situations such as the death of a loved one, sexual assault, physical violence, accidents and abusive relationships can cause PTSD. An individual can experience ongoing (chronic) PTSD or short-term (acute) PTSD. Nevertheless, it can affect the quality of everyday life. Symptoms of PTSD According to the National Mental Institute for Health, to be diagnosed of PTSD, a person must have at least 1 of the following symptoms for at least one month: 👉 One re-experiencing symptom (flashbacks, bad dreams, frightening thoughts) 👉 One avoidance symptom (staying away from similar situations and avoiding thoughts that remind them of the event) 👉 Two arousal and reactivity symptoms (easily startled, feeling tense, insomnia, angry outbursts) 👉 Two cognition and mood symptoms (trouble remembering the traumatic event, negative thoughts about themselves or the world, guilt, blame, loss of interest in daily activities) What is Abuse? Abuse can come in different forms. It can be physical, emotional, verbal, social, financial, spiritual or sexual. One of the hardest to spot is emotional abuse. This can be observed in romantic relationships, families, and even friendships. Although it isnt as evident as physical abuse, the pain that it causes largely affects an individuals mental health and wellbeing. Emotional abusers tend to undermine the victims self worth, perception of reality, and their confidence. This sometimes coincides with other types of abuse, too and can be a precursor of physical abuse. Emotionally Abusive Relationships A healthy relationship typically involves trust, healthy communication, and respect. These kinds of relationships paves away for the betterment of an individual, and also the relationship of two people. On the other hand, emotionally abusive relationships affect individuals negatively. Not everybody knows that they are in one. How do we know if we are in an emotionally abusive relationship? Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Relationship 🔎 Your partner is gaslighting you. It is when false information is told by the abuser that makes the victim doubt their own memory, letting the abuser gain more power. Example: They are blatantly telling lies about something they committed, that makes you think that they did not do it after all, making you judge your own reality. 🔎 You are both arguing about trivial things, and you ending up the one to apologize, making the victim feel like theyre walking on eggshells. 🔎 You feel uncomfortable telling problems since your partner is angry over your arguments and issues, making you think that opening up is not worth it. 🔎 Your partner enjoys making you mad. Example: A couple getting into a fight because of the boyfriend being irrationally hysterical, and the girl getting frustrated about it. Afterwards, the boyfriend tells the girlfriend, Wow, you just get mad so easily! Youre weird. 🔎 Your partner likes to play the victim card, even if they are the one at fault. 🔎 Your partner gives small affirmations, that makes you stay with them. 🔎 Your partner gives fake apologies, that always shifts the blame to the you. Example: Im sorry that you think I was wrong for going out with my friends without me telling you. 🔎 Your partner is charming and romantic, then the next thing they are wildly hysterical and controlling. 🔎 Your partner prevents you from seeing your loved ones and attending daily activities such as school or work. 🔎 Your partner gets the one to decide what you do, wear or eat. 🔎 Your partner constantly needs to know where you are, and demands to know your passwords in social media. 🔎 Your partner tends to call you names and ridicules you, even in public. PTSD and Emotional Abusive Relationships Being with someone who is continually abusive, manipulative, and negative can hugely affect an individuals mental health and well-being. According to The South African College of Applied Psychology, emotional abuse can affect the nervous system the same way physical abuse can. Psychologists identify this as Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and has developed due to long exposure to emotional trauma where the victim has little chance of escaping. How to Deal with this kind of Relationship? If you think that most of the signs above describes your relationship, it would be suggested to confide to someone you trust about your situation. It will be helpful to have someone who can support you through this difficult times. It is also suggested to stay away from the abuser to avoid further conflict. An effective way of dealing with abuse is counseling as they can offer ways on how you can cope with these kinds of trauma. They can provide different kinds of treatment (medications and therapy) that can help your mental health and well-being. Staying healthy through diet and exercise can be a good coping technique. Relaxation techniques can be good to the mind, too. There are many different ways to recover, but of course, one should always not force themselves, and only do so once they are ready. ❓ Discussion Questions ❓ 1. Who do you think is prone to this kind of abuse? 2. Why do you think emotional abuse is hard to identify? 3. If you have a loved one that is going through this kind of struggle, what can you do to help? 4. What can you do to possibly avoid this kind of situation? REFERENCES PSTD: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/ https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/index.shtml Abuse: https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/understand-domestic-violence/types-of-abuse/ https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/abuse.html Gaslighting: https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/6766/gaslighting-examples/ Emotionally Abusive Relationships: https://www.prevention.com/sex/relationships/a25359049/signs-of-emotional-abuse/ https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/effects-of-emotional-abuse#find-a-professional Taggles: @LavenderFlower @Hope @Erato @IsraNMSL @LeetheUnicorn @bear228 @Yendi @SpaceStation2 @ambercares @ItsDev @kindsoul10 @musicalMagic @Tazzie @MieraCurie @Glue
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