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BraveAdventurer
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PathStep 36 Compassion hearts786 Forum posts418 Forum upvotes924 Current upvotes924 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2020 Member sinceMay 5, 2020
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I believe that everyone has a story and voice and has intrinsic value.

My hobbies include horseback riding and figure skating (if you can’t tell from my name), traveling, reading, hiking, camping, being outside, long walks, yoga, being with animals, photography, doing stuff with my church, and volunteering. I’m super interested in psychology and the healing it can bring. And i love hearing people’s stories and perspectives and learning about different cultures.
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Celebration
Self-Harm Recovery / by BraveAdventurer
Last post
 July 23rd, 2020
...See more Unofficial Check in post guys! Resisting SH is awesome. I know a lot of us (myself included) count the days free form SH and even make goals for recovery. I was wondering about everyone else's goals and journey. My therapist described it like a trail. We take SH so many times, it becomes this well-worn trail. Our feet take it without even thinking. It's wide open and safe and familiar. But to quit, we must forge a new path. It's a better bath, but it's hard. We must cut down the tree branches, clear away the thorns, etc. It's a fight to make a new path. When something triggering happens, we must choose which path to take. The easy familiar path that leads somewhere we dont' want or the harder, struggling trail that leads somewhere amazing. A relapse is not a failure. Rather it is a wrong turn. There will be many other opportunities to take the harder path. Today I am 29 days clean (my longest yet). I had 2 goals 33 and 66 days. I have tile in my bathroom. I keep a tally with a dry erase marker (wipes off super easy) on the tile. Every morning I make another tic mark. It's an awesome visual reminder. So when I go into the bathroom to grab the razor, I have to look at how far I've come, how close I am to my goals, and my reaso for fighting. Also, I set prizes. When I hit 33 days, I get to get ice cream with a friend. When i get 66 days, I'm taking the horses out on a trail ride with another friend. So tell me your tips and tricks and victories and/or goals. 1) Do you have Self harm recovery goals? If so, what are they? A day count? A day in mind to try to stop? An accountability buddy? I want to hear. 2) What's your longest stretch without SH? Do you think yo can break it? (Hint: I bet you can...if only by 1 day, 1 hour)How can you measure your progress? 3) What are some cool treats you can give yourself for meeting those goals? 4) What is one song that inspires you to keep fighting? Keep living? Keep finding the joy?
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Journey to Freedom
Trauma Support / by BraveAdventurer
Last post
 July 27th, 2022
...See more I'm on my own. Yes I still have contact with my Extremely abusive parents, and I see them once a month! There are definite flashbacks/panic attacks, SH attacks, disordered thinking, etc. But then there are moments of such freedom! Moments when I do self care. Or feel free. When I make a decision or dare to dream. When I take care of myself. When succeed at something. Moments to relish being FREE! wanting to start a journal of the journey.
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Re-claiming our Power
Trauma Support / by BraveAdventurer
Last post
 June 20th, 2020
...See more Ok so idk how this works or who makes the threads. I may be breaking some rule that will result in me being expelled from the 7 cups kingdom forever. If I'm messing up, please forgive me. I beseech you. But since I didn't see a check-in today, I thought I could create one??? If I'm wrong in this, please please please don't hate me or expel me! I have no research to back this, but I feel trauma steals our power. It keeps us captive through flashbacks, panic attacks, that stupid voice in our heads lying to us, SH or destructive behaviors, isolation, fear,etc. So, I am realizing the healing journey is facilitated by reclaiming that power. Maybe, like me, that's learning that I can say no. That I can make a decision on my own. That I can push boundaries meant to trap me in abuse, manipulation, and assault. For you, maybe that's signing up for therapy. Facing the place where it happened. Confiding in a friend. Giving yourself time to heal. We strip the trauma of it's control when we re-claim our power. So, here are my questions. 1) What is one thing you can do this week to re-claim your power? 2) What ways has trauma stolen your control? What ways do you want to regain control? 3) fun question: what is something you've always wanted to do, but feared you wouldn't be able to? 4) Go to song to cheer you up or energize you?
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Breaking Free
Trauma Support / by BraveAdventurer
Last post
 May 15th, 2020
...See more I'm an adult now, but my parents are still manipulative, and I'm still reminded how dumb, worthless, and unlovable I am. It used to be extremely physically violent, and we lived in lockdown. He made us go to him for everything. Education, food, the chance to play, it was all regulated. I go home every 3 weeks or so still because it's what I know. I'm scared to set boundaries. Scared of the mind games, manipulation, and possibly even violence that will ensue if I try to set boundaries. I want to be free, but how? Has anyone broken free? I don't want to lose my family, but how do I maintain relationship while learning to think for myself. I'm completely financially independent, but they have ways of controlling other aspects of my life. I was fine with the status quo, but this past weekend at home left me shaken and having suicidal thoughts. I want to be free and loved. How? if anyone has any tips? Advice? Or help for dealing with the weirdness (flashbacks, spacing out, numbing out, self-harm, etc).
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