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Childhood abuse - trigger warning
Trauma Support / by BestIcanbe
Last post
 December 19th, 2019
...See more My older brother raped me when I was 11. I buried it for years, and have only really faced the trauma of it over the past three years. Its now 39 years since it happened. Id really like to speak with people who have endured something similar. Its so very complex, the emotions, the loyalty, the pretence, the fear of the impact on the wider family, the anger, the hatred...all in equal measure, all fluctuating. I think it must be very hard to understand unless youve been there. Im not really looking for a shoulder to cry on....Im largely beyond that. Its dealing with the aftermath that I really want to explore. I spoke to my brother six months ago about his actions and the effect on me. Hes denied it. Its knowing where to go from here. How to face another family Christmas with ‘the elephant in the room. Can anyone identify with any of this? How have you coped?
Imaginatively named diary
Trauma Support / by BestIcanbe
Last post
 August 15th, 2018
...See more Of all the words, theres lots of them The worst word I could name In all the English language Without a doubt its shame It ties you down, it suffocates It clips your wings of flight It sucks the air right out your lungs And robs the room of light And worst of all, it wont let go It digs its claws in you It seeps into your every thought And everything you do And even though I hear it said Its not my shame to hold It feels like so much part of me Its mine until Im old I wish that as a child Id not Accepted it as me I wish Id fought, I wish Id won I wish I could be free
Traumatic Experiences Community
Site Updates / by BestIcanbe
Last post
 February 27th, 2017
...See more When I first came to 7 cups as a member, there seemed very few resources available for those who had experienced trauma, specifically sexual abuse. Fortunately I found comfort and support from some rather wonderful listeners. But now there's a new and fantastic string been added to 7 cups. The traumatic experiences community has come alive. The effort and care from a handful of listeners has transformed it, and it has so much for people who have experienced trauma in their life. And now we have group support sessions too! Long live this revival! And I've discovered the power of group support. Members supporting members, the knowledge you're not alone, and those confused feelings aren't you losing your mind. I look forward to a traumatic experiences sub community to enhance this further. Special acknowledgement has to go to @KristenHR @AutumnLeigh and the inspirational @dancingRainbow45
Gastric surgery
Eating Disorder Support / by BestIcanbe
Last post
 October 11th, 2016
...See more Well, I never thought I would ever even seriously consider this, let alone feel it was the only option left open to me. But I'm killing myself by over eating, and I think gastric surgery is my final option. I wondered if anyone reading this has undergone this surgery, and how their experience has been? It terrifies me......both physically from pain, fear of hospitalisation, and never being 'normal' again. And mentally, from admitting defeat and feeling a failure. How have others coped with these factors? I could write a tonne more, but I wonder if talking about surgery on this site is one of those topics that gets heavily edited. I've tried not to write anything too specific, so I hope this is left alone. And if you can offer any thoughts or support, please respond. I'm at a complete loss.
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