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AnotherJay
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37 - Enduro/MotoX Rider - likes: Online Gaming, Poker, ASMR, Health and Fitness, Outdoors, NOT Following the crowd.

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Ive changed 100% since married.
General Support / by AnotherJay
Last post
 June 20th, 2023
...See more Im 37 and married ( 9 years age gap wife 46 ). Have lived a very sheltered life after about 22. Dont go anywhere apart from work and maybe for a ride thru the wilderness now and then. Im a very fit and active person im 37 but easy get away with 30 if i told someone. My understanding of life has changed 100% and im not the person i used to be. I thought all i needed was a home, wife and enough money to get by. Now i have all the things i wanted, i feel lost and bored of anything material, things most people are longing to have. (im not rich by no means i just get by) My partner and I went thru rough times from me nearly passing away and accusations of abuse towards my daughter from family members all proven false in court. Its a really long story. Why we live so isolated now. Anyways today i feel like the whole world is just slaves to money and i cant un think this. Money to me is the route of all evil and control. More to the point.. I want to live to look after my body / mind ( The most important thing you will ever own and seems to be the only thing that grabs my interest ). Im convinced the cure for everything is in the body and comes from the earth. I have a rejection for anything that society says you should be doing. Working together 24/7 Its impossible to hold a conversation with my wife now as she's in the category of "brain washed society". She just wants to sit and watch tv or some shite programs or movies she's seen 100x. Any mention of doing anything else and i get "But Why?" "Why do you want to do that?" "why all of sudden are you wanting to do this or do that?" like an interrogation. So i can be healthy and live longer.. "Just seems abit strange you wanting to do that now after all this time". This makes me feel like I'm in a prison and i cant go anywhere or do anything without permission. Im mentally locked in this. Anyone who says "talk to her" YOU CANNOT... Simple minded people cant hold intellectual conversations or discussions they just see in black and white.. Its either THIS or THAT. So it will always end up in an argument about something unrelated to the topic. Don't get me wrong she is best wife in many ways she does everything for me and cares unconditionally about me she's not fat and lazy. Ill ask are you really going to spend the next 40 years doing this - "yes i like doing this i don't need anyone else".. I feel like i am forced to live the same life. I want to go running and do all the outdoor nature things i can feel by body yearning for it. But im F stuck in this "NORMAL life situation that everyone is supposed to thrive to have" I dont know what to do.
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Relationship Stress / by AnotherJay
Last post
 June 10th, 2023
...See more Married to someone older than me and that's all good. However I'm jst getting lonely as we share no interests and we lack the ability to have a convosation about anything interesting to one another. Would like to find a female friend with similier interests for chat or help with anything your also struggling with.
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35 & Over Community / by AnotherJay
Last post
 June 8th, 2023
...See more Looking to chat to people if they need to talk to someone. Literly about anything you like.
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