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Allyibanez
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Relationship Stress / by Allyibanez
Last post
 August 30th, 2023
...See more So I’m 6 yrs older than my partner he is 20 I’m 26…. our relationship is healthy fun and exciting keeps me on my toes . We both expressed how much we love one another however he had a talk with his grandparents and it scared him . The topic of children and marriage . He feels he won’t be ready for that until 30 and he fears I will be ready for that in the. Next 3-4 years and he won’t be able to give me that …. We almost broke up over this but logically yes maybe we should end things but I love him and I can’t let go. I’m not too worried about having kids any time soon but being engaged maybe in the next few years idk . I told him look your mindset could change … when I was his age I was thinking the same thing I don’t wanna settle down till my late 20’s and here I am still in married and no kids cuz I put my career first and so does he. Idk what to do .
Has he lost interest or just busy
Relationship Stress / by Allyibanez
Last post
 July 16th, 2023
...See more We have been dating 3 months but knowing him since February. We did have a talk how I felt he was pulling away but it was just that he was busy and he put in more effort and showed me so we were good but recently on a few spontaneous trips he planned for us idk I felt him more comfortable or distant idk I think I just miss in the beginning how he was more affectionate.. more attentive .. like could our relationship just be hitting that stage where we are comfortable and the honey moon phase is fizzling . This is my first healthy relationship after all my past relationships being toxic .. Idk if it’s just me overthinking or something
First normal relationship after many toxic ones ..
Relationship Stress / by Allyibanez
Last post
 July 12th, 2023
...See more I finally have entered a normal healthy relationship where I feel at peace and not always on flight or fight mode … I have been in 3 not so good relationships on my Past.. my most recent lasted a year and a half ago and after it ended I started therapy for the first time in my life . It helped .. but being in a normal relationship after such a bad toxic abusive one is more difficult than I thought . I get triggered easily , my overthinking thoughts take over and I just spiral into thinking negative like I just try to self sabotage. It’s a daily struggle but sometimes I think maybe this new person isn’t meant for me .. I wish I could just relax and enjoy the relationship for what it is instead of always watching my back as if something bad will happen . He’s not perfect as no one is or any relationship but we communicate so well and this is the first time I can truly express how I feel and I feel safe around him and comfortable opening up which is rare . Idk what could ease my anxiety over this new relationship.? Has anyone else been thru this ?
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