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Advice for coping with partner with severe Bulimia.
Eating Disorder Support / by AleksNZ
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May 8th, 2020
...See more Rots se the title if it comes off rude, just tried to nutshell it for a title. I (M/22) have been dating and living with my partner (F/19) who has been suffering from bulimia for the past 3 years, and prior to that, recovered from severe anorexia through her teenage life. We talk freely with each other about it so there is little awkwardness, or secrecy between us in dealing with her mental health, but it has been growing a toll on my anxiety the more it goes on. We live in New Zealand and we just had a 4 week lockdown due to COVID19, so we were at home together off work for a month and she was about 3 weeks clean, in a good routine, keeping away from the shower after meals and only having a shower as soon as she woke up before food to prevent a purge after lunch or dinner. I just returned to work this evening in hospitality and we had a good day together, before I left I double checked her mood and asked if there were any risk foods in the house I should pop away to be safe and she said no and left in good spirits. I return after my shift to find she had binged and purged as soon as I left for work and she was heartbroken and frustrated, letting herself and in her own words me down by relapsing. I told her this isn't the case and we talked, but I am growing anxious to leave her alone now I'm back working.. I know I can't do anything or blame myself here, i guess I just need someone to talk to, if anyone else is going through helping someone as well and can give some advice