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Alan97
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Feeling down about being single
Relationship Stress / by Alan97
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December 15th, 2014
...See more Hello everyone. I thought I'd share my problem here today.  I'm only 17, but I've been single my entire life and that has really been bringing me down. There isn't a day that goes by without me thinking about it and it's been almost 3 years. I constantly ask myself, "What's wrong with me?", "Why makes me seem undesirable?" and "Am I going to be single forever?" It's been a painful experience watching the people around me seem to be able to get dates and girlfriends with ease, and even many people much younger than me finding success too. I don't really understand why I am so overlooked and not appreciated by girls...I don't consider myself to be ugly, mean, or unintelligent. It must be because my personality is dull. I consider myself to be a shy, more quiet person and that must be seen as undesirable by girls. Whatever it is, no girl likes me.  It's hard for me to talk about this to people because I feel like nobody else understands. I feel weak for feeling so strongly about love. I'm just so disappointed with high school and how unloved I feel. I expected more out of myself than this. I'm finding it hard to cope. "Just be patient" isn't doing it for me. The thought of being single my entire four years of high school makes me want to cry.  I wanted to share a blog post that I wrote about love, my ideals, and my feelings about a relationship that I'd like to have, but I wasn't sure if I was allowed to post a link to it on here.  Thank you for taking the time to read this forum post and any comments that you have. I greatly appreciate it. 
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