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Accidentaltentacles
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PathStep 16 Compassion hearts8,228 Forum posts11 Forum upvotes29 Current upvotes29 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2024 Member sinceFebruary 8, 2020
Bio

"I'll never let you get to me,

Survival is my victory" ~Killing Joke


I'm a scientist, INFP, favourite book is imajica by Clive Barker, and fave band is TOOL.


You may also find me as listener when I have the time and focus to dedicate to listening.


Recent forum posts
Sad about the closing of General Support chat room
General Support / by Accidentaltentacles
Last post
 March 4th
...See more I have been a member at 7cups for a long while and visited almost daily in these years, spending the vast majority of my time here in the General Support room of the group chat (because I have a history of various mental health issues). Now that the room has been closed (for not being busy enough?) I no longer feel like I fit in the other 24/7 rooms. The General support room was greatly comforting and supportive, rarely seemed to have conflicts and was a quiet place for deep and broad discussions for people struggling with aspects of mental health without being rushed on to a new topic because it was so busy like some other rooms. Don't get me wrong, people in other 24/7 rooms are still welcoming, but I just don't feel like they are right right places to share what is going on for me, or where I can provide my best peer-support to others. I'm sad to see this change after so long, I don't see the regular folks from GS in other rooms often and I will probably not be visiting the chat site as frequently now as a member, but will check back for transient specialist rooms that open up. I guess it is the end of an era, and I'm glad that at least now I am in a better place than when I first came here, so I am thankful to 7cups for the role the community played in that.
Power games at work
General Support / by Accidentaltentacles
Last post
 December 9th, 2022
...See more I have some issues with my boss and it's upsetting me. My boss has two offices, one where they actually work, and an old one they never work in any more, so I get to work in that old one on my own, which I'll admit is a bit of a luxury. After 3 years though, the office still has their name on, and is full of their junk. I am not permitted to refer to it at "my" office. When my boss visits the old office where I work to speak to me, they act like it's theirs, they laugh at me, turn off the light that I'm using, start using my mouse and keyboard in front of me etc, and it's just unsettling not having my own space or having any control when they are around. I have quite some health anxiety and so I don't like anyone to touch my stuff. I have an alcohol spray that I have to use after they visit so I don't spent the rest of the week worried that I'm going to get sick from their germs, but literally no-one else would touch my stuff without permission as they know I will be horrified. IT get a free pass when they are fixing something ;) If feels like my boss doesn't see me as a person, just an object of no consequence, that's squatting in their second office. They don't respond well to confrontation and know I have anxiety but they seem to get a kick out of making me uncomfortable and having power over me :(. It's not just the office stuff, I don't get credit for what I do and get unfavorably compared to people less skilled and experienced just because those people are favourites who fit a certain demographic. It makes me sad and question my worth, not only at work but in general. Not sure if there's anything I can do except leave this employer but things are a bit complicated on that front... anyone got any helpful words for me?
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