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Strengthening Our Community: Listening to LGBTQ+ Voices
by Heather225
Last post
19 hours ago
...See more In these challenging times, we want to remember our commitment to inclusivity and support for all members of our diverse community, especially our LGBTQIA+ folks. We believe that everyone deserves a safe and supportive space to connect, share their experiences, and find the help they need, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or any other identity. 7 Cups is built on the foundation of empathy and understanding. We strive to create an environment where everyone feels welcome, respected, and heard. We recognize that the struggles and triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ community are unique and deserve specific attention and support, particularly in the face of current events. We are dedicated to providing resources, fostering understanding, and amplifying the voices of our LGBTQIA+ members. We know that allyship is an ongoing process, and we are constantly learning and growing. We encourage open and honest conversations about how we can better support our LGBTQIA+ community within 7 Cups and beyond. We value your feedback and insights as we continue this journey together. To all of you within our LGBTQIA+ family: What can the community do to better hear and support you during these difficult times? What are some things you wish allies understood? How can we express this? What would you like the community to know about LGBTQIA+ and beyond? Please answer any of the above. Your responses will be packaged up in a new post dedicated to community awareness to ensure we, as a collective community, are doing right by one another.
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Weekly Prompt #3: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity
by ASilentObserver
Last post
Wednesday
...See more Hi everyone, I hope you are all well. Last time we discussed, What one piece of advice would you give to your younger self? [https://www.7cups.com/forum/LGBTQMOGIISupport_58/DiscussionsandResources_2305/WeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416/] In today's prompt, I want us to take a minute of reflection and share what was the journey of coming out looked like for you. The prompt: What helped you understand and accept your sexuality/gender identity? What was that journey like for you? Share your thoughts with us. Join us in the LGBTQ Support Chat today! [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyYhttps://www.7cups.com/connect/groupChatrooms.php] [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=mmRpeXyVlOJO42uXVVyY] ------------------------- [http://twitter.com/share?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F&text=Weekly+Prompt+%232%3A+W+%407cups] [/sharer/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.7cups.com%2Fforum%2FLGBTQMOGIISupport_58%2FDiscussionsandResources_2305%2FWeeklyPrompt2Whatoneadvicewouldyougivetoyouryoungerself_302416%2F]
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Standing Together with Our Trans Community 🏳️‍⚧️
by Heather225
Last post
February 4th
...See more There's a lot of uncertainty and unrest in our world right now and for anyone who may be suffering right now, either as a trans person or anyone on the LGBTQ+ spectrum, my heart goes out to you. Please know that you are not alone. You are loved, you are valid, and you deserve to live authentically and safely. I hope that you can take comfort in our community and lean on us. We are stronger together. Be it a virtual shoulder to cry on or a distraction from the negativity, we've got you. You belong here. Let's all try to be there for each other during these very challenging times. Message your trans friends, let them know you're thinking of them, and let's do what we do best: listen.  Stay hopeful. We're gonna get through this. Sending you all my love and support. ❤️ 
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Questioning My Sexuality and Relationships
by RidingTheRiptide4
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2 hours ago
...See more Hello all! I originally came here for lgbtq+ support but couldn't find it at first lol. I'm not sure how to summarize this but I'll try! Since I was young I identified as pan, which to me meant loving everyone for who they are not what they identify as (if that makes sense). Currently I have a partner, when we got together she was a trans woman. About a year into our relationship she decided that it would be more beneficial if she went back to her deadname and he/him pronouns, I supported him. Then again she was a trans woman. Then reverted to he/him and went into the marine corp. Then while in his schoolhouse told me she was a trans woman again. Now he's back to he/him and legal name. This doesn't bother me one bit, I still love my partner. Recently we hit a rough patch and I find myself missing how our relationship was, I realized what I miss was how he treated me and acted when she went by Sophia. He would be kinder, softer, more open and affectionate. It could be that he sees these things as feminine so when he's presenting as a man he doesn't do these things but that's what I love and want in the relationship. I've had other issues as well (NSFW) that leads me to believe maybe I'm lesbian? Or pan with a preference to femmes? (if that's the right term) My partner is my highschool sweetheart and the last time I dated a femme was jr high, maybe it's my lack of experience with women/fem presenting people? I'm really confused and I don't want to talk to my partner yet because I'm afraid it'll put more stress on him and trying to figure out his identity and that is the last thing I want. Any advice would be greatly appreciated :) (If anything in here is inaccurate or offends anyone pls let me know! That is not my intention)
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i want to ask my parents for a pride flag, but im worried
by camicardoza10
Last post
5 hours ago
...See more soooo i recently came out to my parents as bisexual, and they have been supportive. however, i want to ask them for a bi flag to hang in my room. like the title says, im worried about asking. although my parents have been supportive of my identity, they (especially my dad) keep insisting that i am "too young" to identify with lgbtq, and that "i will know for sure when im an adult." also, i have a little brother who doesn't know what lgbtq is, and my parents are afraid of him knowing about my sexuality and identity. so, how do i ask for a flag? any advice would be appreciated :)
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Tw: USA Politics
by RJhasCresteds
Last post
6 hours ago
...See more Im a trans man living in the United States. The political climate is crushing me. How do you all deal with what’s going on right now?
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Figuring Out Me
by Estell1112
Last post
8 hours ago
...See more Hi, my new name is Estell. I’m 18 and I think I’m non binary and pansexual. I’m not totally sure. I’m just now figuring myself out. I wanted to ask for advice. I need support because my entire family is homophobic. I’ve never come out publicly, usually only online but usually take it down as soon as someone in my family has the same app and could see my profile. I wanted to ask if anyone knows how to find local support groups in my community. I also am still trying to figure out everything about my gender and sexuality. I’m not quite sure what my pronouns are. If anyone thinks they can help pls comment, I need help. Thanks! It’s nice to know there are groups out there willing to listen! I’m happy to be on 7Cups!
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I don't know myself anymore...
by Nixien
Last post
13 hours ago
...See more I... don't know what I want atp... I thought I was trans, for me it mostly came from the fact that, girls seem... cooler for some reason... and from wanting to wear both feminine and masculine clothes and still look beautiful in them... like suits ? I prefer being feminine in them. Grunge outfits ? Girls version seems better to me. Accesories ? I prefer feminine. I lovd the sweaters that show of shoulders, sometimes crop-tops, I love how leg warmers look, I'd love to have a wolfcut, I like how baggy t-shirts look at girls, and I love to wear dresses... **but I still doubt this... all of it...** I had everything figured out like 9 months ago... and then anxiety made me stop, and I can't recognize my own wants... whenever I ask myself "What do I want to see in the mirror" or "Do you want to be a girl or a guy in the future" it's like my mind goes numb... I don't know if I want to see a guy in the mirror, or do I want to see a girl in it... its like a fog I can't erase... I hate this... I hate my life for the past 9 months... I just... help me... please... I want to know who I am... I don't want to wait another long time... and I... Im... I want to be better finally... and I can't control my own anxiety, doubt and more... I just... I need help but I don't know how anyone could help me... I-I just... I wanna know what I am... but I can't help myself... why do I have to suffer like this... I want to know who or what I am... I know thatcif I woke up as a girl, I'd be happy and excited, but the other way Im worried... I WANT TO KNOW WHAT I AM... and I don't even know how... I hate myself... why can't I just know... why can't my life finally be okay...
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What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains.
by Ankush1509
Last post
14 hours ago
...See more hi everyone, I just wanted to offer a space for anyone who might be struggling with LGBTQ+ issues, whether it’s about identity, relationships, or acceptance. As someone who is bisexual, I understand how complex and personal this journey can be. It’s not always easy to navigate the world when you feel like your identity doesn’t always fit into a neat box or when you face misunderstandings from others. I know how important it is to have a safe space where you can express yourself without fear of judgment, and I want to create that for you. If you’re feeling uncertain, lonely, or just need someone who truly understands, reply on this thread. You deserve to be heard, and I’ll do my best to offer understanding, empathy, and support. Please feel free to share whatever you’re comfortable with, and take your time. No matter where you are in your journey, you are valid. 💙🌈
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Uncertain Times
by WalkingSoftly
Last post
18 hours ago
...See more In these uncertain times, we need each other's support even more. Stay strong!
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Strengthening Our Community: Listening to LGBTQ+ Voices
by Heather225
Last post
19 hours ago
...See more In these challenging times, we want to remember our commitment to inclusivity and support for all members of our diverse community, especially our LGBTQIA+ folks. We believe that everyone deserves a safe and supportive space to connect, share their experiences, and find the help they need, regardless of their sexual orientation, gender identity, gender expression, or any other identity. 7 Cups is built on the foundation of empathy and understanding. We strive to create an environment where everyone feels welcome, respected, and heard. We recognize that the struggles and triumphs of the LGBTQIA+ community are unique and deserve specific attention and support, particularly in the face of current events. We are dedicated to providing resources, fostering understanding, and amplifying the voices of our LGBTQIA+ members. We know that allyship is an ongoing process, and we are constantly learning and growing. We encourage open and honest conversations about how we can better support our LGBTQIA+ community within 7 Cups and beyond. We value your feedback and insights as we continue this journey together. To all of you within our LGBTQIA+ family: What can the community do to better hear and support you during these difficult times? What are some things you wish allies understood? How can we express this? What would you like the community to know about LGBTQIA+ and beyond? Please answer any of the above. Your responses will be packaged up in a new post dedicated to community awareness to ensure we, as a collective community, are doing right by one another.
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support room passive aggressiveness?
by angelheart2011
Last post
1 day ago
...See more (TW, i think) I was in the support room, and somehow the topic gets turned to lgbtqia+ people. I was hearing people saying stuff like how they were sick of seeing lgbtqia+ stuff in their feed as a straight person. oh my god, I was shaking I was so mad. why does the world hate us so much? I was also hearing stuff like how 'the world need to move on to the next level' and that it's like 'they force you to support them'. if you were there, and you were saying this, and you see this, you know who you are. being told this hurts, especially with the condition of the world right now where I live. this is one of the only public places i'm allowed to be who I am and speak openly about it, and you're trying to take that away from me?  anyway, has anyone else experienced this kind of passive aggressive stuff about the lgbtqia+ community? cause I hate it.  (sorry for the long, angry rant, I was just really upset and hurt.) love to all u guys. we can brave this scary world! <33333
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Relationship and family
by hopefuldreamer334
Last post
Thursday
...See more Today I told my stepmom that my “friend” who I’m going on vacation with next month is actually my boyfriend. It all happened so fast and I’m regretting my decision to tell her but I guess it had to come out someday. My family already knows I’m bisexual and they’re honestly not the most accepting people around. They have said pretty offensive things in the past but they know not to say it around me now since I live with them. It all came up because I told her I was going on vacation next month for my spring break. I was telling her how I secured a cheap cruise and a cheap Airbnb since I’m on a budget cause I’m a student. She was telling me how that’s nice and that it’s worth it to go. Then she asked if I was going with my friend, because she knew I went with him on my last vacation. I told her yes and then, I don’t know why it just came out, I said “he’s actually my boyfriend, but he used to be my friend.” Her response was a high pitched “mhmm” like acknowledging it and then she turned around and didn’t say anything else. It got super awkward silent so I left. I had stood there for about two minutes after finishing the dishes like I had been and then I left because I really expected her to say something else and she just didn’t. Maybe she was in shock? I don’t know. But it definitely didn't seem like the reaction I was hoping for. My mom already knows about him and she’s been supportive about it at least to my face, I don’t know what she’s said behind my back. But my dad and stepmom didn’t know at all. What sucks is that she’s met him at my last birthday party and my dad and her suspected we were more than friends. They asked my sister if she knew anything and she denied it because she knew I wasn’t ready to tell them. However they had their suspicions and my sister told me that but also said they don’t care at the end of the day. I don’t know how to feel, I guess I just felt very emotional about it because of her reaction, or lack of one. I guess it just hurts.
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Good luck, babe…
by nervouspixiefawn
Last post
Thursday
...See more It took me until just before my 27th birthday in November to realize I’m a lesbian. I’m stuck in a financially controlling relationship with a man, using my pets as a crutch to get through the day. I would go to a shelter if I didn’t have them.  I’m so angry at myself. I listen to Chappell in the shower and scream-cry the words. I’m so jealous but so happy for her. I feel like a bird in a cage.
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What a silly morning :)
by Nate715
Last post
Wednesday
...See more I have rainbow beads on my black converse, i put them there not too long ago, about a month ago. my mom didn´t say anything and nor did anyone else say anything. i´ve received one compliment on them. this morning, my mom said for me to take them off as soon as i get home from school, ¨those colors mean gay¨ she said, or something like that, i looked at her confused, because this entire time i´ve kept quiet about sexuality with her, considering what happened a year and a half ago, accidentally coming out to her was something i want to forget. ¨you are straight.¨ she said sternly at me. my intention to put the rainbow colored beads on my converse was so they looked pretty, not because i was coming out to the world as this gentle pansexual giant who struggles having a simple conversation with people, internally i thought this was silly, so i said and i quote: ¨oh but the beads i put on my shoes are solely for decoration and style, i had no intention of meaning anything else.¨  as i sat in the car with her and my siblings, she continued about how people here in america are disgusted by all things (true, true by the way, from personal experience) and that even a simple act can get people to think about you differently, so that made me wonder,  who assumed i was gay because of my shoe colors? what if i were straight and i just genuinely liked rainbow colored shoes? why are we assuming a sexuality over shoes?? 😂 i mean, she wasn´t wrong about me being gay, like openly gay and keeping it a secret from her, but imagine if i were straight 😅 my mind came to the one person my mom interacts with, and i genuinely don´t like this woman who talks to my mom at all because she goes on forever with her right after school, and causes us to be late, so i assume its her who assumes something about me considering my mom doesn´t talk to anyone but her lately and nobody has had a problem with my shoes  anyways i don´t think i´ll ever be approaching that lady ever again, i´ll stick to waiting in the car, thanks. i´ll keep my styled shoes and my gayness to myself. 😃🏳‍🌈🫶 if you get to the end of this,  if your comfortable this is your reminder to come out to a person your close with! your loved! ❤🥹

LGBTQ+/MOGII Support

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Welcome to LGBTQ+/MOGII Support! We are so pleased that you have found our little rainbow here in the 7 cups forums. Our community is here to support you as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person, family member, friend and/or ally. Whether you are curious and questioning, or out and proud, and all the stages in between, this is a place where you can find support in being who you are and coping with the challenges that come with it. We strive to keep this a safe space for all. Here you can discuss anything and everything related to the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and being LGBTQ+/MOGII.


What are the different forum topics for LGBTQ+/MOGII Support?

Asexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about asexuality? Explore more here!

Checking in and breaking the ice: A place for you to introduce yourself, take part in our community check-ins and get to know other community members by participating in fun games!

Community & Culture: Want to know more about the LGBTQ+/MOGII community and cultural contributions? This is the place to learn more!

Discussions and Resources: Want to participate in meaningful discussions and access additional resources? Join in here!

Gay Support: Got a question or want to share more about being gay? Uncover more here!

Gender Identity Support: Questioning your gender identity? Want to share your experiences? Discuss it here!

Intersex Support: Got a question or want to share more about being intersex? Learn more here!

LGBTQ+ General SupportStruggling with other issues as an LGBTQ+/MOGII person? Working to cope with issues impacting the wider LGBTQ+/MOGII community? Find more support here! 

Lesbian Support: Got a question or want to share more about being a lesbian? Share your experiences here!

Multisexual Umbrella Support: Got a question or want to share more about multisexuality? Discuss more here!

Questioning & Coming Out: Are you questioning? Thinking about coming out? Maybe you already have? Share your struggles and stories here!


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You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable to). Alternatively, you may wish to join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information. Even just participating in events, check-ins and group chats can be a great way to help build and support the community!


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LGBTQ+/MOGII Suppoort Q&A

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Community Guidelines

1) Be kind & open minded at all times!

2) Do not impose any beliefs onto another in any harmful way!

3) Please don't express judgments or attack anyone within the community!

4) Please respect each other's gender, pronouns, sexual orientation, identities in general!

 

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Community Resources

1. Abuse, Violence, Discrimination & Safety

(Abuse guides and resources, violence prevention and staying safe, normativity, discrimination, privilege)

2. Allies, Families & Friends

(Resources for allies, caregivers, families, organisations, communities, schools...)

3. Asexual & Aromantic Spectrum

(Resources, guides and websites, finding your identity, gray-asexuality and demisexuality)

4. Coming Out

(Resources for you before, while and after coming out)

5. Emergency & Crisis Resources

(Helplines, hotlines, emergency numbers, crisis information)

6. Gender Expression

(Understanding gender expression, feminising, masculising & binding, names and pronouns)

7. Gender Identity

(Understanding and finding gender and gender identity, gender terminology and glossaries)

8. Health, Dysphoria & Transitioning

(Gender Dysphoria help, transitioning resources, LGBTQ+ health information)

9. Religion

(LGBTQ+ supportive religious resources by denomination)

10. Sex Diversity & Intersex

(Understanding sex diversity and intersex, resoruces)

11. Sexual & Romantic Orientations

(Understanding attraction and orientation, finding and accepting your identity, gay, lesbian, bi, pan resources)

12. Workplace & Education

(Being LGBTQ+, coming out at and seeking work, university or school)

13. Trans Resources

(Resourses for the Trans community)


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