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Listener Classifieds: Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
by Heather225
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more This space is for Listeners who actively and currently support the topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) to introduce themselves. Members: review the replies below to find someone who aligns with your needs. Remember to check their listener bios for further information before connecting. Listeners, please share the following details: Are you an adult, teen, or ATL (Adult-Teen Listener): Gender: Languages you speak: Are you open to taking on members for long-term listening support? Your experience with DID: Any other things a member should know: (Optional) Your availability (in EST time) and day(s) if applicable: (Listeners, if at any point you no longer accept DID chats or wish to update your information, contact me or CheeryMango to delete or edit your response)
Listener Classifieds (November 2024) Members, Check Out Our Listeners Accepting New Chats!
by Heather225
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more This space is for Listeners who are currently accepting chats to introduce themselves to the member community! Members, if any listeners pique your interest, you can then check out their bios and see if they might be a good fit for you! Here are some things you can consider sharing (only share what's comfortable): Are you an adult, teen or ATL (Adult-Teen Listener): Gender: Languages you speak: Topics you'll support: Topics you don’t support: Lived experience: Are you open to taking on members for long-term listening support? Your availability (in EST time) and day(s) if applicable:
[Members]Farewell/Taking a Break/Returning Thread: Send Your Regards
by MonBon
Last post
 November 12th
...See more We often time come to 7 cups in search of something: -Someone who understands -Someone to talk to -Someone who will listen -Someone to keep us company Many of us find that - which is awesome! However, there may come a time when as a member, you are ready to leave. And that is okay. It doesn't have to be forever or even an awfully long time. Maybe you are leaving to go out to eat with friends for the first time in weeks or months. Let us know so we can send you off with warm regards!
Hospital Stories for @Tinywhisper11
by jesusredeemedme2425
Last post
 50 minutes ago
...See more @Tinywhisper11 is in the hospital (please don’t remove this post; Tiny gave me express permission in another chat to tell people she’s in the hospital, and she’s looking forward to this post!), and she’s bored out of her mind. Can everyone rally together to entertain her, please? Make up a short story, tell her about something funny that happened in your childhood, discuss something that’s happened recently in the world, send her a story like from Aesop’s fables, send her an update on your life… It doesn’t matter what it is, just give her something interesting or funny or whatever to read while she’s bored in the hospital. Also, please note that she may not respond, at least for awhile, because she’s still in the healing process. But know that she’s reading all of it and enjoying it, and she loves and is grateful for all of you! <3 Thank you <3
idk what to say tbh . I'm not good.
by amiableBunny4016
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more @YourCaringConfidant Hey, how are you doing buddy? This is kind of a check in but mostly just some space for me and you since our friendship had grown. Lmao. ❤️❤️ To be honest it's hard to talk to any listener and yk I can't even cope. I don't even like venting on anyone. Just feeling really lonely to be honest. Sitting in the darkest of days recently. Things went downhill recently .... Last week was terrible. The week before that was a good week. Lmao. Anyways.. hope your okay. I just want you to know that I care about you and your PAT posts are beautiful! Bunny 🐇
I sincerely wish... she will fight for her rights!
by NewbWanderer
Last post
 2 hours ago
...See more Your Silence, My Voice In your silence lie countless screams, I hear those unspoken pleas of yours. You ask me to stay away, to forget you entirely, But how can I erase the dreams we shared together? You say that fear grips your heart, I say we'll fight this battle as one. Why fight alone for your freedom? Didn't I promise to walk beside you till the end? Is love such a grave sin? Is choosing our own path such a crime? Your God gave you this life to live, Why surrender it to others' design? You ask for time, and I give you Not moments, but a lifetime true. Just don't ask me to forget you, For you're like a verse in my book of life, That feels new every time I read through. People tell me to be practical, To accept that if not you, someone else will do. But how do I make them understand That you're not a choice I made, You're a part of my existence so deep, A story left incomplete I cannot keep. I hold no grudge against your family, I only have this humble plea: Give you time, listen to your voice, Find their joy in your happiness freely. You say my hopes are breaking you down, But how can I leave you alone in this fight? My silence holds my restlessness, Your silence holds your helplessness. The tears that fill your eyes today, Flow from mine just the same way. You ask me to forget and move on, But how can I forget dreams that we dwelt upon? This world holds endless possibilities, Why chain ourselves to age-old traditions? Your Allah and the world I see, Both speak of truths that set us free. I wonder at this painful irony: The women who once lived in chains, Now become the keepers of the same, Passing down their silent pain. What did our elders learn from their youth, When their voices too were stifled and mute? Are they now taking revenge, perhaps, By passing trauma down this twisted route? I think of your daughters tomorrow, Will they find their voice to speak? Or will they inherit this same silence, When they try to choose their path unique? Will their rational pleas be heard Or will they too be told to stay meek? You'll fight your battle alone, you say, I'll stay away as you asked, okay. But remember, I'm here somewhere near, Ready for your call, should you ever need. I only ask this much of you: Don't let your voice fade away. For hidden in your silence deep, Lies the story of my heartache's keep.
Unloved
by sensitivePal85266
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more I feel so unloved, like the pain of being alone in this world is too too heavy on me How do I keep going? I'm just so overwhelmed, I've been crying daily for like 3 days now I lost it, I'm not doing anything good, I'm lashing out on others. Whenever I try to make a friend I end up being selfish, and I hurt them I can't make friends, but I still need them. I've been alone almost all of my life, nobody cares about me, how do someone like me function without any of the important feelings that everyone gets? love, kindness, joy, enthusiasm, passion, ambition, humanly connection with others, nostalgia (As I never had good childhood memories, never went to any parks, zoos, oceans, traveling for fun, cinemas, or any of those places that are memorable memories for people in their childhood), and hope.  I just wanted a hug for too too long, ever since I was a child, but nobody gave it to me, and now I'm a broken guy reaching adult age, and I will be blamed for my trauma as if I chose this.  Unloved by parents, siblings, and everyone else who starts to know me hates me, in one way or another.  2 failed relationships, 1 blocked me, and one cheated on me I tried making a friend here, and I ended up hurting them, and now they dislike me.  I wonder when they'll either block me, or use me for being too weak, I just don't think that they'll treat me any well after being this vulnerable to them, especially when they have issues themselves that could lead them to using me, or hurting me, and I understand that. I'm already a failure of becoming a man, and even a human being. Just a narcissistic who pretends to care. And I don't know what to do. Don't even have money for therapy, and I'm too broken to even go into this journey of college and jobs, I can barely survive while I'm with myself. I literally wrote this an hour before a final exam that I barely studied for, I didn't even know what was the subject till I checked it last night.  People say that men can show their emotions, but that is a pathetic lie that gets told, just to pretend that we're equal, but nobody actually cares when a guy shows their emotions, unless they have a good amount in their bank account, or I guess a fancy wolf cut, or a six pack.
Too Late
by sunnyLake7661
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Recently I thought of why so many people may feel depressed, the most common age people have their first depressive episode is between 19 and 21 (CDC 21% of people in a survey conducted in 2019 in the US) and adolescents have it rough as well (2020 study found 12% of adolescents reported feeling depressed). Worldwide there's a 4.21% report of depression in all ages.  I often feel that 19 to 21 is the age where we suddenly change, we no longer are in high school or college anymore and we become adults. This sudden shift can cause many opportunities... and sadly many mistakes. When we hit that age we're no longer going through mood swings or developing like our formative years (12-18) and now we should be mature and finally get a job and seek work to make a living. There are many reasons for depression such as loneliness, isolation, abuse, trauma deep struggles people could have gone through. When we approach depression from people, from many walks of life, I often feel that a key problem is how we would look back on our formative years and perhaps feel that time was wasted and anything we do will be inconsequential and this carries over to older folks. We feel like because we're young we should achieve things as soon as possible before "being young" wears out, we rush so hard but don't think about everything else. If someone asked you what your life would be like if you were 65  or how you want the world to look after 65 years some people wouldn't know what to answer. Retirement would come to mind but what would that mean? Is that something you can only do when you retire? I want the world to be a better place. did anything I do ever contribute to that?  And now the problem becomes did I waste my life?  I've wondered this for a while and that thought comes in many forms. I didn't do things that I should've done, I made decisions that were so easy to see were wrong but I made them anyway, and I missed out on things that I should've experienced. I never felt truly happy, did I? If humans only lived for 30 years then yes it would be something that might hold more weight, but life expectancy is rising and soon the average age will one day be 80 in places like Australia or Germany. People think that doing good while their young is the only thing that matters, but once you are no longer young then what? Why give up when life is halfway there, why stop running if the start line isn't far behind you?  Is it too late to turn your life around?  No... there's never a reason to think it's too late to change for the better, sometimes it may feel useless but a small step is still something that we all must take to lead to big changes if you need to pause in life don't be afraid to do so or seek guidance. Life is long and experience is more valuable than time, so please don't think it's too late. If you have a goal in the distance you'll never reach it if you don't start. Likewise, if you start you'll eventually reach the end. Just don't give up because you will reach that better you, that better place, that better world, eventually.  I can't tell if this should go on general support, but if someone is willing to read this, then at least I hope instead of seeking support I have possibly given support to someone else going through similar thoughts. If you've put up with my blathering I want to say; You've worked hard to stay alive, very hard, and I'm glad you are here reading this.  -Sunnylake 
What is the best approach?
by RoseFlorals
Last post
 3 hours ago
...See more Ever since I was little I have always been a strange kid. It was never in a bad way I js normally understood things faster but it was always in my own way. A while ago I had an encounter with my dad, who I have never had a good relationship with and we were talking about school. I remember him yelling and getting over a simple mistake I had made. I believe that he had used a different word from the one I was using (ex. Test instead of quiz) and in my brain I didn’t understand. This has happened quite often since I was little. I always put it off as he was having a bad day or js said others have it worse. He would always be rude and ask oh are you getting bullied, but it was never genuine. The thing was that was just how my brain worked.  He would also do things like this with how my tone or attitude was. He would get really upset when I didn’t even know i had a different tone. The problem wasn’t that he got upset it was that he wouldn’t try to help me. He would just get upset as if it would automatically make me know how to fix my tone.  One of the other things that would always happen that upset me a lot was that even after he would get mad he would make a joke and pretend that nothing was wrong. And as a kid i normally would easily laugh at anything and now that i think about it, it kind of feels toxic. I have so few memories from my childhood and i feel like he took them away from me. My main point with all of this is what has to do with the title. I believe that I’m autistic (the above stories being some explains of why I think so) and my mom who I have a better relationship with, I don’t know how to tell her. My dad has made me afraid to share my feelings with someone I know and worries me that things could be said about. How should I try to approach this?
I Will Never Be The Same
by callmeRM
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more The last year of my life has been life-changing I've had experiences I could only have dreamed of I've had disappointments I could not have imaged I've had lows I didn't know existed  The last month of my life has been mind-altering I've dealt with a type of pain I didnt know existed I have knees that still hurt from kneeling and begging for God for help I have shoulders that still shake from the body-shaking sobs I've had I have a heart that is still recovering from the daily attacks I have a mind that still runs a million miles an hour I still can still hear that question that was asked that made me realize I am fundamentally not OK  The question that still runs through my mind that broke me The answer to the question that made me go on a spiral The truth that I didn't know I was running from I will never be the same I still think this to shall pass  I still look to God and ask him when The grief still hits me at random times I still ask God why all of this all at once The last year felt like I've dealt with enough to last two lifetimes The last month felt like I've dealt with enough to last ten lifetimes I've chosen to seclude and deal with it alone  I don't know how I will be when I re-enter the world I don't know if I can re-enter it I don't know how I will be to my friends and family Will they see that my light has dimmed to the point of almost being out Will they see the reminds of my crull present Or will they just ask me when I'm getting married Will I have to ignore that my life will never be the same I am not the same I dont care the same I dont see the world the same There is a part of me that will always grief This is more than grief, the grief is just what pushed me over This is what happens when the truth I was running away from catches up to me It been over a year  When will I see sun again Its almost been a month  When will I breathe again Its like I'm in the ocean and I know I need to stay afloat but the waves keep taking me under and I'm getting tired   When will this end I will never be the same
Human cave
by courageousHuman2692
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more Would like a space to write
Don’t know what to do…help!
by lightHuman1618
Last post
 7 hours ago
...See more My husband and I have been married for 14 years and we’ve been through a lot in that time. We have 2 kids with additional needs and life is busy and hard work. We live in a regional area and he travels 1.5hrs drive away to the city to his dream job. I work 2 casual jobs locally and do everything else for me and the kids. We had a big fight on the weekend (one of many) and I’m not sure if I can recover from it again. I have no family support I am exhausted and overwhelmed by the end of the day and feel so unappreciated. The only place I feel safe is in my bed on my side. On Saturday he took the kids out for a few hours and as soon as he got home he went straight to the bedroom and got into bed on my side of the bed without a word to me. I was annoyed as he didn’t communicate with me whatsoever about the outing or how he was feeling and just took over my safe space and expected me to take over care of the kids immediately as “he’d done it all day”. I did raise my voice which was not ok but I was so triggered that he completely ignored me and expected me to just take over while he relaxed in the only place I feel comfortable and safe in the house!! I have a lot of trauma around feeling safe as I was raised by a narcissistic mother and I’m doing a lot of work on healing, one of the ways is creating a safe space for myself, which I have explained to him. He never makes me feel heard or seen and therefore safe. He stayed in the bedroom for the next 4 hours and then when he emerged he screamed his head off at me for they way I spoke to him when he came home and went straight to the bedroom. He said he can do whatever he wants he doesn’t have to ask permission to rest. I apologised for the way I spoke but tried to explain why and he just shouted me down yelling about how I give him nothing and I’m always feeling sick or tired or going on about some problem he doesn’t want to hear about, that’s why he doesn’t listen, and that’s how he’ll continue. He said he wants to sleep in separate rooms and doesn’t want to talk about it has basically just ignored me since. I’m not sure what to do now. I’m so hurt and over being unseen, unheard and unappreciated for everything I do for my family. I’m not sure I can come back from this with him. He’s made it pretty clear that he doesn’t want anything else to do with me. I feel so alone. Any suggestions about what I should do next?
Feeling Lost
by convivialJet8323
Last post
 8 hours ago
...See more I feel trapped! Found out someone that I have loved all my life betrayed me. I feel like I have to forgive them because I have special needs children involve, but I am hurting. I want to know how to love without being too attached so I can mentally move on. This person is the only person I have had in my life for over a decade, so now I feel lost after what they did. I pray that I am able to forgive, but it's really hard. The person apologized it seemed sincere, as this person never betrayed me before. So how do I move pass this for my own mental health? Thank you!
Is it being tired? Laziness?
by SOFFY9
Last post
 10 hours ago
...See more What is this feeling when you just don't want to do nothing but the list of things to get done overwhelmed you to the point of crying. The thought of how you have to keep your feet running for that future. Without the willpower to do anything, the feeling as if I'm being forced to live because there's no other choice. When I gotta keep my feet on the ground to show I'm still that girl, to show that I'll meet their expectations, to show that their effort and investment in me will not go in vain, to show that I can do it, what they want me to, for my own future, but deep down that I don't want to do anything no more. It's either I ride on, (forcing myself) or I get out of here. I don't know how to get out of this situation, I don't the things that I want or the things that would make me happy. You might have imagined, there's this BTS person in my life, shaping my life uprightly, hoping for me the best future. But this individual (me) is not that enthusiastic about the future or anything. It's all a lie just to look normal and not disappoint my person. But I've been getting too tired or lazy lately... Whatever it's called
First post
by snooks08
Last post
 11 hours ago
...See more I’ve never done this before and I was a little hesitant to do this. I typed out a whole paragraph yesterday to post but stopped myself after rethinking. I’ve been struggling a lot and I just don’t know how to handle it anymore. I’ll start off by saying I lost my very close friend. She dropped me basically because of my mental health. It hurt and I was upset but it didn’t last long because the day after, my cousin died. Her viewing was today. I saw her and she looked beautiful but I could tell it just wasn’t her. I’m heartbroken over this and I don’t know how to help myself. Ive also been struggling with relationship issues. I have someone Im talking to, but I struggle with trust because my last relationship was life threatening. The guy I talk to now makes dark jokes and I take things like that seriously since what happened. They scare me. I told him and he stopped which is good and I don’t know why I can’t get over it. He’s a great guy and helps me. I ended up in the hospital over that relationship. I don’t wanna end up like that again. I’m starting to feel like that everyday and it makes me more anxious thinking about how I may become that way again. I never wanna feel like that again. Today was the viewing of my cousin and it was so hard. I felt like I had to go see her since Ive only saw her once since she was 2 months old. I told her bye and it was just one of the worst things Ive had to experience. Ive worked really hard to devote my life to God and since this Ive just felt distant from him. He was my only comfort and it hurts that as of now I can’t comfort myself in his words. I really just want to find a reason for this happening but I can’t. I feel so terrible for my uncle and aunt. Today, even though it probably wasn’t a good idea, I told my dad about my relationship because I wanted to get everything off my chest. He was angry and didn’t support it. He was gonna take me out of school and take my phone. I cant lose another person. Even though he says things that scare me, he’s helped me so much through this hard time. I’ve already lost so much I can’t lose anymore. I feel myself losing hope in life. I also have to go back in person to school. I went online due to some issues in the past. I have to go back soon and I’m very anxious. When I went online I noticed a lot of my friends becoming distant. So I feel alone in the sense of having someone to talk to. I just try to distract myself but I end up thinking about everything that has happened and I get anxious and honestly the feeling is unbearable. I don’t know how I’m gonna deal with this feeling everyday. I just hope someone can help or talk to me on here. I don’t know what else to do because my mom knows everything and is there for me but I still feel hopeless.

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