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My story

Reading & Writing / by LeighUnruly40

11 minutes ago

...See more Hi, I was looking for a place to share my story, and I thought this forum seemed like a good place to start. I hope I’m right. I was born in Leicester, and my parents were together until I was around three. Then my mum left with me, and we came to London, moving through temporary housing and eventually staying with some of my mum’s family. I don’t remember everything from that time, but over the years, I’ve learned about it through stories my mum shared. When I was around six, I started having a difficult time with my mum. She was often physically aggressive, using household items and sometimes her hands. I have a few clear memories that still stay with me—things like having my head banged against a wall and being told hurtful things or feeling scared in situations I couldn’t control. Those years had a big impact on me. My mum later started a new relationship, and when I was seven, I met my dad for the first time. I didn’t feel a real connection with him, and the visit was short. Shortly after, my younger brother was born, and I became a caretaker for him in a lot of ways, even from a very young age. My relationship with my mum continued to be challenging, and eventually, social services became involved. I spent my early teens in various children’s homes, which exposed me to difficult situations, and I often felt I had to fend for myself. I didn’t have role models to guide me, and over time I became involved in risky situations that I’m not proud of. In my twenties, I started a family of my own. I’ve been through a few relationships, and each has left its own mark on me, often bringing out issues I’m still learning to understand. I have three kids, though I haven’t been able to be as present in their lives as I’d hoped. Those experiences have been painful, but they’re also part of what’s pushed me to try and work through the struggles I face. In the years since, I’ve been diagnosed with several mental health conditions, including complex PTSD, borderline personality disorder, and depression. There are also things I suspect about myself, such as possibly having ADHD or body image issues, though I haven’t been formally diagnosed. I struggle with authority and have a very strong reaction to any kind of aggression toward children, especially given my own past. Managing anger has been a constant challenge, and I often feel overwhelmed by life’s challenges. My mum passed away when I was around 34, leaving me with a lot of unanswered questions and a sense of unresolved pain. I have siblings, but unfortunately, we’re not close, and I’ve often felt like the odd one out in my own family. After many years of homelessness, I’m now in temporary housing, which is a huge relief. I’ve found peace in things like camping and have even been exploring the countryside. Recently, I traveled to a village on the England-Scotland border and was moved by the kindness of strangers there. It reminded me there’s more to life than what I’ve experienced in the past, and I’m hoping to make that a part of my future. After using ChatGPT, I came across this community and, with a little hesitation, decided to give it a try. I’m hoping to connect with people who can relate, share advice, or even just provide some understanding. A friend who gets it would be amazing. Thank you for reading my story. — Leigh aka Unruly

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Positivity & Gratitude / by Gettingbettertoday

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Why cheat?

Relationship Stress / by Optimisticempath

39 minutes ago

...See more hi everyone... ive been thinking of this since long and i really wanted to know more thoughts on this...please don't take this the other way.. i don't mean to judge you and will not say anything bad to you... but i want to hear from those who have cheated in their relationships.... Why? ... what made you cheat? im really trying to understand here ... why do people cheat... why does someone say they love you and then go behind your back? people can just come clean... leave the person and the relationship... then why cheat...and then leave the relationship??! Or worse...sometimes the partner doesn't even know they are being cheated on ...😔 cheating isn't just physical... it's also emotional.... one person cannot feel the same way for two people... the romantic inclination, the spiritual attraction, the commitment ... it cannot be replicated.. so many people can be good looking or attractive in different ways but i do not think it's possible to be attracted to multiple people in the same way ... in the way of wanting a future with them ... the way of sharing life with them... the way of being there with them and growing old with them.. my brain literally cannot comprehend someone finding another person even worthy of spoiling their committed relationship over... like idk man ... cheating should be illegal... unacceptable...people shouldn't even be thinking of it.... today's times are sad sad times...so many terrible things are normalized so much... it hurts and it's scary to even let someone in without thinking they aren't gonna ruin my perspective on love and commitment and relationships even more... hearing stories as these and seeing so much of it around.... really scares me so much i cant even explain... flares up my fears and attachment issues to next level...😔 yeah so personally i think cheating shouldn't even be a concept... but it is... so im just trying to understand what goes in the mind of the person cheating.... if someone coming across this has cheated on someone in past... or currently.... ik it's even silly of me to ask lmao because who even dares to admit such things right.... but um if it's a past experience and you can talk about it now...it'll really be helpful.... i don't mean to judge or shame you... but I'm honestly just trying to make more sense of this....from the other perspective...because usually ... mostly perspectives from only the other side.. the one who has been cheated on ... are shared would like to know more on what leads to it? ... what could prevent it?.. how do you feel about it later? is this something you regret or are fine with.... your thoughts on it... anything ...

@bluelemon6419 ! Trying to talk to you and set up communication

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